Just between us girls. Have you noticed gold-digging men are on the rise?

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  1. realtalk247 profile image75
    realtalk247posted 9 years ago

    Just between us girls. Have you noticed gold-digging men are on the rise?

    There are more men that feel due to their looks, desperation of women, or delusional mindset that their $10 an hour job is somehow a perfect match for a working professional or executive. Years ago men were ashamed when they couldn't provide for themselves/families. Men that had nothing to offer did not approach professionals-they knew better. Now it seems like an epidemic with men trying to "get over." Women loaning money to men when given sob stories.wth
    Do you know friends who have been victims financially?  Have you been approached by someone attempting to woo you because you were stable?


  2. dashingscorpio profile image79
    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago


    " Men that had nothing to offer did not approach professionals-they knew better."
    By (nothing) I assume you mean money or financial means.
    It's sort of ironic how many career women often claim men don't approach them because they're "intimidated by their success".
    And now that some have come to realize that is not the case they're calling these men "gold diggers"! LOL!
    Historically rich/successful men have married women who had "nothing" going for them aside from their looks. However instead of viewing their significant others or wives as "gold diggers" they viewed it as being apart of the trappings that come with success.
    In fact many men subscribe to the belief that if they become "successful enough" they can have any woman they want!smile
    Back when Hugh Hefner was age (86) he married former centerfold Crystal Harris who was (26) years old at the time.
    Nevertheless times are changing. According to a recent study from Pew Research Center women earn more than men in almost a quarter of U.S. households. Women are now the leading or solo breadwinners in 40 percent of households, compared with just 11 percent in 1960.
    Seventy-one percent of husbands are working in households where women make more money than their spouses, where they have a median family income of $80,000, according to 2011 data.
    In 1960, only 4 percent of women made more than their husbands.
    Clearly this data shows men are NOT intimidated by a woman's success and as you noted they are not ashamed of having less money than the women they date or marry. They're not intimidated.
    Some women are fine with earning more money than their significant other while many women still hold onto to the tradition of expecting the man to be the main breadwinner even if they themselves are earning over six figures a year!
    When a woman is financially independent where she doesn't "need a man" to live as she pleases she is free to chose a man based upon other qualities she desires in a mate.
    Can you imagine how lonely Oprah, Madonna, Halle Berry, or Jennifer Lopez would be if they insisted every man they date or marry has to match their income or earn more than them?
    Having said that I believe the top reason why men approach women still has to do with their appearance and physical attributes. Her income or success are "icing on the cake".
    Still it's highly unlikely we're going to see any 26 year old guys rushing to marry an 86 year old woman no matter how rich and successful she is! One man's opinion!smile

    1. feenix profile image57
      feenixposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      dasingscorpio, I was going to post my own answer to this question but your response is a hard act to follow. As a matter of fact, what you wrote is a masterpiece.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image79
      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks feenix! :-)

    3. realtalk247 profile image75
      realtalk247posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Let me clarify dashingscorpio, btw-I can appreciate your perspective.  Not all men are gold-diggers just because they make less than the woman they approach. My perspective was based largely on class difference.

    4. dashingscorpio profile image79
      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      realtalk247, However you must agree that when it involves a poor young woman who meets the handsome rich prince that sweeps her off her feet it's considered a "romantic fairytale"! No one talks about their class differences.
      Double standard? hmm

  3. tamarawilhite profile image84
    tamarawilhiteposted 9 years ago

    It is considered more socially acceptable for the man to not work or to earn less than his spouse.
    And there are now many more women out-earning the men and able to support a "boy toy" or stay at home husband.

  4. realtalk247 profile image75
    realtalk247posted 9 years ago

    My post was based on men that think they can identify women as sugar mommas. Let's be real, not everyone is innocent. There was a YouTube presentation advising black men to stop dating ratchet women because you have no commonalities. 
    To each their own if they want to financially support a man but there is something wrong with a nation of men that are now forming this thought process that you will move into the lifestyle a woman has prepared for herself.  I've heard some young men express out of their own mouths that they just "wait for them to get older and desperate and they cash in." While this is not every person dating "out of their league" there are men that are plotting on women desperate to be loved.  For all the marriages and relationships that are formed with large income gaps, where men make less money than their mate, the success stories are few and far in-between.
    Can I invite you to a gala or event and be confident you can conduct yourself appropriately when you are in an environment?  Do you know dining etiquette?
    The number one reason for divorce is finances. Honestly, no woman wants to be the provider of their man (unless they have control issues/daddy issues), unfair or not, it's just not natural.  I know some women will disagree and many men wil disagree. If I'm preparing my life to do better, have financial secuirity, and you have done nothing to prepare for yours.............I'm not reaching over in my boat to save you lest I end up sinking myself. It is what it is. If you work at taco bell then why are you trying to talk to the women in the mercedes in the drive-thru? Can we have a real conversation about something you know is true?

    1. dashingscorpio profile image79
      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Your said "..delusional mindset that their $10 an hour job is somehow a perfect match for a working professional or executive." Men have dated or married women who earned less for many years. I believe selecting the wrong mate is #1 cause divorce

    2. realtalk247 profile image75
      realtalk247posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think it's difficult for a man to be with a women that is not on his same page. Pretty Woman is a movie, not real life. Sometimes one can hit the lottery but what life does the executive have with the girl waiting tables at Chili's-not good. Levels

    3. dashingscorpio profile image79
      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      There are many rich male celebrities and athletes that marry women who aren't successful in their own right. Once they're married the women don't have to work. Matt Damon and Nicholas Cage are two guys who married hospitality helpers. It happens.


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