When you go to dinner with your beloved do you sit side by side or across from e

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  1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
    Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years ago

    When you go to dinner with your beloved do you sit side by side or across from each other?

    Why would you sit side by side and why would you sit across from each other? There is no right or wrong answer, for each person will have their own reasons or preferences.
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  2. MarieLB profile image83
    MarieLBposted 3 years ago

    Hi Phyllis Doyle Burns, I guess my first reaction would be to say - It depends on the circumstances, however, if we are talking about sitting at a table for two, then opposite each other is what I would consider "natural'.  Come to think of it, even when we are in a group sitting at a large table, we quite often end up sitting opposite each other, and tend to alternate men and women sitting on the same side.

    I guess it is easier to communicate with your partner if you can see each other's face!

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Mariel and thanks.

  3. ChitrangadaSharan profile image61
    ChitrangadaSharanposted 3 years ago

    Interesting question!
    I prefer sitting on the opposite chair, when I go out for dinner with my husband. Its easier to look at each other or communicate that way.
    Sitting side by side is preferred on other occasions, such as watching Television or movie.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Chitrangada and thank you.

  4. Motherbynature profile image73
    Motherbynatureposted 3 years ago

    It depends on the occasion.  If it's a romantic dinner at the Sky Room we sit side by side because the booth seat is like a loveseat.  They want you to enjoy each other and the skyline view of the city.  We also sit side-by-side at a sports bar because we need to see the tv.

    Usually though we sit across from each other at fast food places because we talk a lot and like to have eye contact.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Motherbynature and thank you.

  5. chef-de-jour profile image97
    chef-de-jourposted 3 years ago

    Opposite each other, then I can keep an eye on her and make sure she uses the right cutlery for the right dish, the clean side of the napkin, that her wine glass is at the right angle when she slurps, sorry, drinks, that she isn't making a fool of herself say by sucking up spaghetti noisily or throwing veggies around, that her manners are suitable for the environment we're in, and most of all, that she can then lean over and give me a big smooshy kiss at the end of each course and in between drinks.

    This is a tongue-in-cheek answer and not necessarily accurate. Or appropriate.

    Apologies Phyllis. I am not such a chauvinista!!

    1. MarieLB profile image83
      MarieLBposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Ha!Ha!!  We will laugh at it for sure, but will you if SHE sees it??  LOL!! smile

    2. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Andrew. LOL, you are a cut-up,

  6. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

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    Usually face to face. Being able to look into each other eyes without having to turn your head is a good thing. However I understand the argument that sitting side by side allows for more physical touching.
    Having said that a lot of folks who sit side by side do so for the purpose of people watching or taking in the sights of the restaurant d├ęcor. Being in the center of a (semi circle booth) is great for this.
    Note: The longer a couple has been together the less time is spent staring into each other eyes. I see lots of people looking at their cell phones while waiting for their meals to arrive. LOL!

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi dashingscorpio and thank you.

  7. MizBejabbers profile image92
    MizBejabbersposted 3 years ago

    When it is just the two of us, which is most of the time, we prefer to sit facing each other. Conversation is easier, especially because he is hard of hearing. The sound projects better to his hearing aids. Many times in the car we have to truncate our conversation because he can't hear my voice over the road noise. But I've always preferred sitting opposite my "date" rather than beside him. I guess it started when I was married to a lefty, and sometimes it got awkward depending on the seating arrangement.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi MizB and thank you.

  8. M. T. Dremer profile image93
    M. T. Dremerposted 3 years ago

    When my wife and I are seated at a table (that has 4 chairs) we usually sit next to each other. This allows us to keep our voices down or share food easier. But, for the most part we sit across from each other.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi MT and thank you.

  9. manatita44 profile image84
    manatita44posted 3 years ago

    I have done both. I have never been one for convention, really. Still, my experience is that when you are truly close, it is usually way down on the list of concerns. Much Love, Phyllis.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Manatita and thanks for contributing.

  10. Edward J. Palumbo profile image87
    Edward J. Palumboposted 3 years ago

    It depends on the table arrangement. We prefer to discuss or comment quietly and usually share whatever tastes delicious so we can keep it in mind when we revisit the restaurant, so we sit beside each other, unless the table of booth is narrow enough to permit conversation and face-to-face seating. After 33 years of marriage, we seem to communicate volumes with our eyes and expressions.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Edward and thank you.

  11. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    across each other, he doesn't like side by side, weird to be looking at someone else, sitting opposite

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Peachy and thank you.

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    ahorsebackposted 3 years ago

    Phyllis , Now you already know that it's all about  eye contact , a flick of the hair , a touch under the table cloth ,  a touch of fingers in conversation ,   a laugh  and a flirt and a tear or two  !..........the side by side is always for later on !

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      So true, Ed, I agree. Thanks for contributing.

  13. Marie Flint profile image90
    Marie Flintposted 3 years ago

    I don't get much of a chance to do either these days, Phyllis, but, in the beginning, I preferred across because I could see the eyes and facial expressions. As children arrived, I often still found myself across with my daughter next to me on the inside of the booth. Sometimes we had the opportunity at family gatherings to sit next to each other. This physical nearness helped me to remain calm among strangers (gatherings were from his side of the family) who eventually became familiar.

    Nice question.

    1. Phyllis Doyle profile image96
      Phyllis Doyleposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Marie and thanks.

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