Does Jealousy Prove Love?

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   Darknlovely3436posted 8 years ago

   Does Jealousy Prove Love?
   
   He just wouldn't control his Jealousy, and it putting a damper into our relationship. or am I reading too much into it.?
   
   

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   Cissy1946posted 8 years ago

   No, jealously does not prove love, it proves inadequacies in you.

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      threekeysposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      The least harmful affect of jealousy is engendering a protective instinct. But for me it is a red red flag. It shows too many insecurities. I mean we all of have some insecurities but jealousy leads to violence and murder. Not good at all.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   No, jealousy doesn't "prove" love!
   It usually means a person (believes) they're with “someone out of their league” and cannot believe she/him is really “into them”.
   Jealousy can also mean one is “possessive”.
   Simply put they don’t want to share their mate with anyone including friends and family. In extreme cases they hate to see their mate showing kindness to anyone. They want their mate to show kindness, joy, affection, love, and respect (only towards them).
   While jealousy is an indication someone has a high value of their significant other which sometimes causes people to be “flattered”. Believe it or not some people feel “taken for granted” if their mate seems “too  trusting”!
   They'll intentionally try to get out a rise out of their mate.
   This is usually a sign of immaturity at the very least and manipulative at its worst just to stir things up. Oftentimes this is a ploy used by younger people who believe if their mate never gets jealous it means he or she doesn’t really care about them.
   Most jealous people {wish their mates were also jealous}! 
   Whenever the jealousy is not “reciprocated” the jealous person believes they love/care more about their mate then their mate care about them. This leads them to become distrustful, insecure, paranoid, and sometimes controlling.

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   parrsterposted 8 years ago

   I think jealousy can be positive or negative. Healthy jealousy may not prove love, but is a sign of sincere care and commitment to a relationship. On the other hand, unhealthy jealousy manifests itself through lies, threats, self-pity, and feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.
   Positive jealousy shows commitment to the relationship and aims to protect the relationship from threats, seeks openness with the special other, and promotes accountability through honest communication. Positive jealousy will ensure major threats are confronted before they become major problems.
   On the other hand, negative jealousy stems from comparing oneself to others and feelings of inadequacy and self pity. It is often the result of a experiencing a lot of unresolved loss in life when young (divorce, death, abandonment). These issues then present as negatively as jealousy, and if unresolved can become the dominating pathology in a relationship. such people will try to control a relationship through exaggeration, self-pity, lies, threats or manipulation. All of which are not a sign of love, but unresolved pain.
   You have to determine what type of jealousy is being exhibited before you can discern whether its positive of negative.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

   Jealousy proves possessiveness but it doesn't prove love.

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   manatita44posted 8 years ago

   No. Jealousy is like a naked knife. It kills people. It is a bit like fear or insecurity among other things. It is that part of the inner consciousness that is very dark; that has not been touched by the Light divine. It will stab you and it will stab others.
   
   Don't stress though. I'm not condemning it at all. We all have this to a greater or lesser extent. Know it for what it is and then it becomes easier to work with. We do not own humans. Nothing belongs to us. If and when you can, break free of attachments. Easier to love then. Much Love.

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   Rohan Kulkarniposted 8 years ago

   From your comments i feel if he is stretching it way too much then it is not love it is jealousy.trust me on this,this is nothing but his own ego which is making situation worse.tell him its not right what he is doing,control your emotions and ego.if you are in love then prove it,tell him this.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. If someone has to "change" their core; most likely it means you're not right for one another.

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