Is it really true that men hate to dance?
I'm making updates in my book for adults, and I have a chapter on belly dance and burlesque. A friend of mine said I should write the chapter encouraging learning ballroom dance instead. I already wrote about ballroom dance in an earlier chapter. My experience has often been that women outnumber men at ballroom and folk dances, and I have a theory if women make themselves attractive and flirt a lot, that would get men more interested in dance.
Is my theory right? If not, what can be done to get men more interested in social dance? Please state your experiences and ideas here! Thanks!
I would imagine most guys have no interest in ballroom dancing.
In fact back in the days of disco and heavy nightclubbing the guys I knew were primarily looking to get laid when they went out.
Alcohol and dancing (especially slow dancing) were a means to an end. Dancing in R&B nightclubs in particular has always had an undercurrent of sexuality to it. I recall seeing "twerking" in the 90s!
Going out dancing created the opportunity to approach women with the "ice breaker" of simply asking them "Would you like to dance?'
Generally speaking midway through the song the guy would ask some general questions like her name or flirt...etc
Having said that in the Chicago area "stepping" a form of dancing that R. Kelly often sings about is still popular with the over 40 crowd.
Most guys however when they do dance would rather be free flowing or spontaneous as opposed to taking (lessons) and following rigid guidelines. Learning dance moves are a fun process for women.
It's not uncommon to go to a club or a wedding reception and see a (group of women) doing some version of "the electric slide".
I imagine there are lots of women who would rather do group dancing than have men hit on them. These women just want to have fun.
As for established couples it's been my observation that the longer a couple has been together the less dancing they do. This goes back to my teenage years where people threw parties in their basements. The "serious couples" usually sat on the sofa most of the night.
Do you think flirting women would get men more interested in ballroom dance? What if the woman did belly dance / burlesque moves?
If a guy thinks you're "hot" there's a good chance he'll try anything to be around you (in the beginning). However once the relationship is "solidified" he'll revert back to his "authentic self". Men view flirting as an act of seduction.
My husband hates dancing but I find it soooo romantic.He danced with me at our wedding and anniversaries
I don't know about other guys, but I don't like to dance. At all. I would rather go out and play cricket or football or read a book than dance.
Maybe treating dancing as more of an athletic activity could inspire some men to pick it up more readily.
Thanks, everyone, who answered. I have made the updates to the chapter, "Excerpt from If You Like Sex, Read This Book!". I have also finished the updates to the book as well. It is available in both paperback and ebook format.
Thanks again, for your help! Future generations will thank you too!
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