How do you make friends as an adult?

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  1. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 3 years ago

    How do you make friends as an adult?

    What are some ideas for making new friendships when you are an adult?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Most adults make friends at work, parties & gatherings, church activities, or if they have children they may bond with other parents over school programs, the gym or anyplace of where the same people are in regular attendance. hobby/interests groups where people meet once or twice a month, evening classes of any kind, and even while on vacation.
    Being in a shared environment/situation is oftentimes the launching point for having a conversation. I know on my cruise lines most people are seated at an assigned dinner table with other people they may not know. By the end of the week usually there is a little bonding between everyone.
    Naturally how one defines "friends" is important. Most people aren't going to qualify as being "best friends" or almost like "siblings".
    However there are plenty of folks where if one wants to maintain contact with periodically it can easily be accomplished (phone, email, and social media). From time to time extend invitations to events and gatherings.
    Another thing these days is people are suspicious of those who seem to latch on to them too quickly. They'll tell their real friends; "I barely met this woman now she's calling me a couple of times a week, inviting me to go shopping, to her house for dinner...etc I wish I had never given her my number." You don't want to come off as being desperate for friends.
    The worst mistake anyone can make is "rushing a friendship along". The best friendships occur over time. Sometimes you learn something about someone and you decide to pull back.
    It's all part of the process. 
    Just about everyone has experienced having the "annoying friend" or person who wants to forge a friendship with them and they're looking for ways to avoid dealing with them. It helps to be observant to recognize when the other person has no interest in knowing you beyond a casual acquaintance.
    A real friendship is (reciprocated) with calls, emails, and invitations. No one should always be "the one" initiating the contact. If it is try not reaching out and see how long it is before they contact you.

    1. stricktlydating profile image83
      stricktlydatingposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Dashingscorpio for your invaluable advice!

  3. gmwilliams profile image82
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    Join a club that you enjoy and you will find like minded individuals with whom you have a commonality with.  Also develop interesting hobbies such as reading/discussing books and other cultural activities, inviting those who enjoy the same hobbies and activities into your circle.  There are so many and myriad activities that all you have to do is attend and people will see and gravitate towards you.

    1. stricktlydating profile image83
      stricktlydatingposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for sharing your advice Grace!


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