Why do humans pretend they're friends when they aren't? Why do they like putting

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   Melody Reiceposted 8 years ago

   Why do humans pretend they're friends when they aren't? Why do they like putting you through pain?
   
   Sometimes I feel like humans are worthless but then I make a friend who changes my life. Never give up hope my fellow socially awkward friends. It will eventually get better.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   Very few people enjoy putting someone through pain especially when they become mature enough to understand consequences/empathy.
   Young people in particular are oftentimes only concerned with what (they) want. It's been said kids are cruel. However much of that is because they're immature and don't know any better.
   There comes a time for example where watching someone fall to the ground hard is not funny and slapstick is viewed as silly.
   As adults people learn the best way to co-exist is to be courteous around folks including those you dislike. This is true at work.
   (Having said that with age should come wisdom!)
   Trust like respect should be something that is (earned) over time.
   Too often people make the mistake of (assuming) someone is their friend or {immediately trusting people} without them having demonstrated honesty and integrity over time.
   They're too quick to befriend people and let them into their inner circle. Just as companies have a "screening process" for potential job candidates we as individuals should have a friend & mate selection criteria of our own. Not everyone will or should make the cut.
   Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
   If we're experiencing one disappointment after another it's probably time we re-examined our friend/mate selection criteria.
   The only thing all of your bad relationships have in common is (you).

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      Melody Reiceposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with all of that except all of it(lol). Yes wisdom comes in age, and yes sometimes we jump to conclusions and assume someone's are friend. But most of the time, that's not what happens. I'm talking about the close, long, relationships.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well if they have been long close friendships then it's unlikely they were "faking it" the whole time!
      At some point things changed and you didn't notice it until it was clear they weren't on the same page with you anymore. Sometimes we relax.

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