Do you think it's "unromantic" to have your own mate selection process?

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  1. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Do you think it's "unromantic" to have your own mate selection process?

    For instance if a company was looking to fill a key position the HR department would not contact everyone who sent in a resume. Not everyone who had a phone interview with the HR rep would be passed on to the hiring manager, and not everyone who has a phone interview with the hiring manager would be invited to have a face to face interview. The company would also be in touch with (multiple candidates at the same time) while searching for the "right one".
    And yet there are many folks who meet online that will go out on first dates without any real "screening process". Screen or not to screen?

  2. The Honest Mommy profile image59
    The Honest Mommyposted 3 years ago

    As a mother of two kiddos... SCREEN SCREEN SCREEN!

  3. gmwilliams profile image82
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    No, it is called smart dating & relating.  A smart, intelligent person has very high standards regarding dating & eventually mate selection.  Only clueless, unintelligent people would date & eventually marry any old Joe or Josephina.   Smart, intelligent people are highly selective regarding dating & mating.   

    If people were more selective regarding dating & especially mating, relationship & familial dysfunction & problems would be reduced at least 70%.  The masses are not very selective regarding dating & mating, they just DATE or MATE,  glad that someone looked their way & give them the nod.   They date &/or mate ....DUMB & oftentimes the consequences are DUMB, even DETRIMENTAL.  People who date & mate SMART reap the benefits emotionally, intellectually, psychologically, & especially socioeconomically.  More people should date & /or mate smart & society in general would be much better off.

  4. Jade89 profile image83
    Jade89posted 3 years ago

    I think that could be considered one of the benefits of online dating. You have tons of time to do a lot of research before actually agreeing to a first date.
    With all the "catfishing" and scams it wouldn't be smart at all to just jump at the opportunity to be with anyone (those you meet online especially).
    I think it depends quite a bit on what ones definition of the "screening process" is. It could be "Oh he has a job and he's given me a name and surname so that's good enough for me!" Or more like 'Okay so I’ve checked his Facebook (I don't see any signs of a possible partner), I've found his Linked in (his job seems legit), I've called him randomly without warning and at random hours and he always answers, we've been chatting for a while and I'm not getting any awkward vibes, he hasn't sent me any nude selfies... I think I can give him a first date!" hahaha I think that's more me.
    So I think instead of asking if you have a ‘screening process’ it should be more – how intense is your screening process maybe...


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