Is been a jerk truly a requirement to be a player that get laid?
TV portray players as unethical jerks getting sex by unethical manipulation eg lying to women about wanting commitment. Only James Bond is portray a nice guy player who simply have what women want. We even give nice guy player an alternative title call "lady's man". But most studies suggest, been James Bond style player is more effective, then jerks eg, study found girls are more likely to sleep with a guy she just met, if he let her know he is just looking for a bit of fun, from the beginning, then lying saying he wants commitment, because girls withhold sex longer in serious relationship.
Only women can tell you what type of men they're attracted to.
Oftentimes "nice guys" are privy to how players talk about women (behind their backs) or men aware of his many dalliances/flings he has with other women. Most so call "players" don't present that image to women they encounter. The majority of these women learn about the lies and his behavior after the fact.
Some traits "players" and "bad boys" often have in common are confidence, good looks, the admiration/respect of other men, along with charisma, and mystery that makes women want to know more.
In some instances there are women who do go through a "bad boy" phase but they're often younger and eventually outgrow it.
You could stick such a woman in a room with five guys and have four them drop to their knees extending their heart out towards her while the 5th sits in a corner sipping a cocktail acting as if she does not exist. That's they guy she'll want to get to know!
Their motto:
"We ignore those who adore us and adore those who ignore us."
He's a mystery, a challenge, she has to prove to herself she could get him if she wanted, if she is aware of other women pursuing him that just increases his value and the competition makes her go all out to (win).
She'll have to earn his attention, compliments, try to decode whatever he says or doesn't say, and he'll keep her guessing how he feels about her.
In some instances the "player" or "bad boy" is very financially successful or is famous. Women may want to be seen with him because it raises their status socially or they make valuable contacts. Sometimes it's all about the perks, fun, and luxury.
Women who are into "bad boys" may view a "nice guy" as being boring, not a challenge, put him in "the friend zone", awkward, lacking confidence, or similar sense of humor, and not respected by other men... or worst of all (boring).
Last but not least not every woman is looking for "serious relationship". Some women enjoy casual no strings attached.
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