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Ladies, If a strange woman squeezed your boyfriend or husband's biceps would you

  1. dashingscorpio profile image89
    dashingscorpioposted 21 months ago

    Ladies, If a strange woman squeezed your boyfriend or husband's biceps would you call that flirting?

    Would you feel as though she "crossed the line"? Men, if a woman you weren't dating or romantically interested in asked to feel your bicep or touch your six pack would you give her the okay?  Would you be flattered? Is it a "double standard"? Or is it always inappropriate for strangers to ask to touch each other's body.

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  2. AshtonFirefly profile image80
    AshtonFireflyposted 21 months ago

    That's a definite YES. I'm not sure how any woman would not find it offensive, but perhaps it's just me, and the particular "no touch" culture in which I have been raised.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image89
      dashingscorpioposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I doubt you're alone in your feelings about this.

  3. Annsalo profile image84
    Annsaloposted 21 months ago

    Umm, YES! Line crossed! There is no reason myself or my husband should ever be touched by anyone unless we asked to be!
    To me it is always inappropriate to ask to touch a stranger's body no matter if squeezing a muscle, rubbing a pregnant belly, or touching on the back as walk through a door!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image89
      dashingscorpioposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I hear you. I've witnessed strangers touching a pregnant woman's belly. Guys are also known for placing their hand in the small of a woman's back as if they're guiding her to the dance floor, through an open door.
      It's almost like a cheap feel.

  4. Say Yes To Life profile image81
    Say Yes To Lifeposted 21 months ago

    That's not flirting; that's a come-on, and it's not OK.  Regarding double standards, I once read a case where a customer asked a salesclerk, "That hair doesn't look real - may I touch it?"  She responded with, "Those breasts don't look real - may I touch them?"
    If a woman doesn't want a man grabbing her behind, she should not be grabbing his biceps.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image89
      dashingscorpioposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      That salesclerk had a great comeback! LOL!

    2. AshtonFirefly profile image80
      AshtonFireflyposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I wish someone had been there to take a picture of the customer's reaction at that exact moment.

  5. junkseller profile image86
    junksellerposted 21 months ago

    If I am at the gym with a buddy and he comes up to tell me that some chick just squeezed his guns, my likely reaction will be to ask him if she was hot (and if so we will probably high-five).

    On the other hand if I am at the gym with a friend who is a girl and she tells me a similar story, my likely reaction will be to ask where the punk is because I'd like to have a word with him (actually first I'd probably ask if he was benching 300 pounds).

    Of course there is a double standard. Men and boys on average do not have a sense of violation from those types of encounters the way that woman do. Maybe that is genetic. Maybe it is learned. Maybe it is because we tend to grow up rough-housing constantly. Or perhaps it is partly because we know that (in general) a woman can't hurt us if we don't want her to so we do not require the same level of shielding.

    Regardless of the reason or reasons, we are different. If no double standard then who is to change? Do we want men to be offended by these types of situations? Why would we want someone to be upset by something that doesn't normally upset them? Or do we want women to be less offended by these types of situations. Personally I think we could all stand to be a little less guarded, but that can't be forced, nor can it probably happen with the world we live in today (unfortunately).

    I tend to think that women in the scenario above would be upset more that another woman encroached on her turf than by any sense of her partner's body being violated. Look at it another way. Let's say it wasn't a boyfriend/husband, but just a friend. I just don't see many women being upset by that. I think most would just chuckle. Whereas, I think most would be upset if it was a female friend who had her butt groped.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image89
      dashingscorpioposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      You've made several valid points. Thanks for you answer.

  6. profile image60
    peter565posted 21 months ago

    If it is just boy friend, well it is not like you guys are married, so it is Ok, but it is still a very impolite thing to do to you, because he is your boy friend, so to that extend it is still not right. If you guys are married that is definitly not right.

  7. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 21 months ago

    of course not!
    Any girlfriend would be jealous to see another lady to squeeze your man's body parts regardless of wherever it is!
    He is your man, nobody can touch him.
    Vice versa, if a strangers place his hands over my shoulder, would your man be jealous too?

 
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