Why do married men cheat?
This behavior is so rampant that some wives do not bother about it any more , they choose to let it go and life continues without the worry of distractions that can be brought about by their husband's behavior. But why do married men cheat?
They don't have the Spirit of GOD in them to HELP (John 14:26; 16:13) them "deny flesh!" Galatians 5:16-21 says "This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led by the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, reveillings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do these things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."
Marriage (male/female) is HOLY in the sight of GOD "And they shall become ONE flesh" (Genesis 2:24) and is "As Christ is to the Church" (aka ONE Spirit) as stated in Ephesians 5:31-33!
However, we run out and marry one based on "looks, finances, status, etc" and DEFY SCRIPTURE; consequently; either remain in unhappiness or divorce!
It happens to MOST who don't know the Scriptures! Colossians 3:16 says "And WHATSOEVER ye do in word or deed, do ALL in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him."
Married men cheat for the same reasons married women do.
More often than not this is a "rhetorical question" in the sense that most people really don't care about (why) someone cheats!
Nothing one says "justifies it" in our mind!
The goal of a cheater is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.
Essentially they're looking to "compliment" their existing relationship.
Rarely do cheaters seek to (replace) one relationship with another!
If they were looking to replace their spouse divorce was always available to them.
Cheating is about breaking the rules, secrecy, and deception. Someone wants (more) than what is being offered to them and they feel entitled to it. There are three basic cheaters in my opinion
1. The Incessant Cheater
This person has never been faithful in any long-term relationship! They get bored very easily and is always on the look out for a thrill that comes with being with someone (new). Their view of monogamy is equivalent to choosing to go on a very strict diet. It's not a matter of (if) they will cheat but (when). Their motto: "Variety is the spice of life!"
2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater
This person isn't "proactively looking" to cheat however under the so called right circumstances such as someone attractive (hits on them) or a secret crush makes it known there is a shot to go from fantasy to reality they might cave in to temptation. Sometimes this type of cheater confesses weeks, months, or years later in order to absolve the guilt they carry around.
3. The Discontented Cheater
This person blames you!
If you hadn't stopped or started doing whatever they would have never stepped outside of the relationship. Essentially they feel you stopped making them feel "special", took them for granted, neglected them in some way be it emotionally or physically.
(After talking with no changes in sight.)
Their options: 1. Accept things as they are. 2. Divorce. 3. Cheat.
Having said that their "unhappiness" hasn't risen to the point where they want to run down to the courthouse to file for divorce, move out of their home into an apartment, pay child support/alimony, lower their living standard, become a weekend dad, divide up family & friends.
Since cheaters don't expect to get caught many go with option 3.
It takes more courage to walk away from an unhappy marriage than it does to cheat.
Cheating is a cowardly act to attempt to get (everything) one wants!
Married men...AND WOMEN, cheat because they CAN. No need to get into long drawn out psychological profiling and explanations. Since the beginning of time, spouses have cheated on one another. Moral irresponsibility, selfishness, lack of empathy, lust, excitement, revenge......shall I keep going?
There's a "cheat switch" inside every human being...as part of the Human Nature electrical system. One's switch is either permanently in the OFF position OR....one is easily able to switch it on at will. That's a weird way of stating that a person is either capable of cheating or they simply are NOT.
It's a crap shoot when we marry as to whether one or the other or both parties have a working switch!! I'm not joking. If you've been in the world and had relationships for more than 10 yrs, you should probably have been able to come to this realization all by yourself.
I find your comment interesting (and sad) but I also agree. Cheating has become so rampant and common place, people have begun to come to terms with the probability and decide to fluff it off or get through it. Divorce is ugly & expensive.....hard on children and no parent should place themselves in a position to be a single parent. Just stay together and work things out or grin and bear it! Chances are, another relationship would result in another divorce.
Trade-offs.....Let's use some common sense. Why trade your husband in because he cheated and take up with another man whose divorced because he cheated on his wife???? Are we stupid??
"Married men..AND WOMEN, cheat because they CAN."
Based upon that statement there'd be no such thing as monogamy! Since (everyone) has the "option" to have sex even if it's calling up an escort service.
We all CAN cheat but we all don't: Why?
Hi dashing..Yes, right. By "because they CAN" I mean they R able/capable due 2 their make-up/attitude/behavior....as I mention, 1 is either a "cheater" or they R not. U & I R saying the same thing! LOL which answers your last Q, "Why?"
Well, I agree with everything fpherj48 has to say, and I have my two cents to add.
While it may have become more 'acceptable' to discuss the matter, it is no more or less common today than it was in the 18th or 19th centuries; it just wasn't talked about back then, so no one but the parties involved knew. Nowadays, everyone airs their dirty laundry all over the internet, and it has become a topic of conversation as to who is cheating on whom.
My personal position would be to (maybe) stay with the clod, but if he'd found it elsewhere, he'd not be getting it at home anymore. How would I know what diseases he might have contracted? That's the main concern these days, now that we know there are such things and how they are spread.
(And by the way; it isn't only married MEN...after all, the fact that they are cheating indicates they are doing it WITH someone, and that someone could very well be a married WOMAN.)
1. They have women hitting on them constantly
2. They are too good at hitting on women and can't stop themselves
3. Their wife never wants to have sex
by Iadore 7 years ago
I don't want a generalised answer. If your a man or if you were why would you cheat on ur grl or woman??
by swilliams 4 years ago
The Definition of Unattractive is: as follows: plain, ugly, unappealing, unpleasant, hideous, unlovely, unprepossessing, unsightly, ghastly, revolting, repellent, repulsive, repugnant.However, can this description describe the personality of women who knowingly cheat with married men?
by Wunmi olugbode 21 months ago
Why do men cheat ?Men ain't committing and being faithful to their partner.just wonder why.
by accofranco 4 years ago
Why do men cheat on their female lovers, including the married ones? does it mean that cheating is in the nature of men or....? please i just want to hear your own side of this issue. thanks.
by homematchmakers 9 years ago
why do some men cheat?
by Kristie Glass 21 months ago
Why do men cheat
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