"Which do you think is worse: losing touch with a good friend who lives right nearby? Or a good
friend who moves away?
I think losing touch with a good friend who lives nearby is worse. My reason for this thought is that if my friend has moved away then it's the move that has caused the distance in our friendship but if they remain nearby and we lose touch then it's very possible that something was wrong with the friendship in the first place. Or not in the first place but as the years progressed the dynamic of the friendship changed to reflect the changes in the lives of the participants which, in turn, caused the friendship to become a distant one.
Losing touch isn't necessary a bad thing.
In fact it often allows one to reflect on the friendship itself.
Maybe it was always (you) that was holding the friendship together in the first place. If you didn't call them they would never call you, you didn't suggest or invite them over for a get together you'd never see each other. Most friendships rarely are 50/50.
There are many people unaware of being in "one sided friendships" until they've had some time to really examine the friendship.
In other instances having vastly different lifestyle changes can impact a friendship. Suppose your friend was single and then you got married, had children, and got wrapped up into scheduling "play dates" with other parents, school carpools, and other things...
Naturally your single person would drift away from you because your worlds are radically different now. They're likely to want to spend more time with other single friends or maybe it's you who simply do not have the time to spend with them one on one due to your various new obligations.
Oftentimes the "busier person" really doesn't notice the friendship is drifting until after they get settled. It's the person who was "readily available" that made a decision to stop making the effort to fit into their schedule. If someone rejects you enough times it's only natural to stop pursing things with them.
That's even true within a marriage!
by gajanis786 7 years ago
Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch..................with a good friend who lives right near you?
by Shaloo Walia 2 years ago
Which is worse: a good friend moves away or losing touch with a good friend who lives right next?
by Johnathan David 15 months ago
What's the difference between a friend, a true friend and a best friend?I just want your viewpoints on the certain stages of friendship and what they mean to you..
by Janet Giessl 5 years ago
What would you do if a good friend of yours didn't give you the money back you have lent him?
by Marcy Goodfleisch 2 years ago
Have you ever had to end a friendship? Why? And how did you do it?Sometimes things change, even between BFFs. Have you ever 'broke it off' with a good friend. Not someone you dated, but a friend?Why did you decide to move on? And how did you make your exit?
by Saadia A 6 years ago
Do you call yourself a good friend?What special thing you think you do for your friends that make you good in their eyes?
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