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   janetwritesposted 11 years ago

   What would you do if a good friend of yours didn't give you the money back you have lent him?

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   I would "borrow" something of theirs until they pay me back. However, that is if a long span of time has passed and they have missed the previously set payments. If they are without a job, I never would have given them money in the first place.

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      janetwritesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your very helpful answer. I myself have never had this situation but my sister  had made the experience with a friend of hers.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   That would really bother me and I think I would just sit them down and ask their intentions.  Are you planning on paying me back and when?  I think lending to a friend is a mistake just because of those reasons. I would be afraid it would affect an otherwise good friendship.

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      janetwritesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your helpful answer. You are right that lending money to a friend may affect a good friendship.

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   jennshealthstoreposted 11 years ago

   I had a friend who lent her friends mom quite a bit of money. The lady was not paying her back.She would not bother her too often about repaying but would bring it up from time to time. After a while, she really needed the money herself. She started to ask a little more often. She told her friend, the girl who's mother it was but that was no help at all. She seemed to only get a few dollars here and there and a whole bunch of promises and excuses. Finally it got so bad that the friendship between my friend and this girl was lost.
   
   I say if a friend is in need of money, only give it if you are willing to be ok with it being more of a gift. If you can part with it and not expect it back it may save a relationship. If you cannot afford it, be honest and say I wish I could help out but I can't at the moment.

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      janetwritesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      thank you for sharing your experience. It's very useful.

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   HowIConqueredposted 11 years ago

   They probably weren't  a good friend of mine from the get go. I've lent money and items to good "acquaintances" and never received the money/items back. After a few friendly reminders, I let it go and stopped all contact with said people. I'm very picky with whom I help out, but sometimes you encounter bad apples. The sad part is many people don't know or understand how they've taken advantaged of someone's kindness. So whats the point in creating drama over something like that? I find it's best to forgive, but find new "friends".

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      janetwritesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.

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