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What is the best age to get get married?

  1. Evane profile image56
    Evaneposted 21 months ago

    What is the best age to get get married?

    Oh well, people around me are getting married. It seems like there is competition. But I am not in a hurry. I just want to know what do you think is the best age for marriage.

  2. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 21 months ago

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    When one is in his/her 30s.  The 20s should be a time of exploration regarding relationships & life options.  Also, the 20s are a time to become established career-wise.  When one is in his/her 30s, h/she is established career-wise & has attained a promotion or two.  In essence, one should marry in his/her 30s, preferable mid-30s when one is hopefully established educationally & socioeconomically. Furthermore, when one is his/her 30s, h/she has tested the relationship & life options waters so h/she should know what h/she wants in person & is able to have a sustainable relationship.

    1. Evane profile image56
      Evaneposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Excellent idea there! Thank you.

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    Cissy1946posted 21 months ago

    I got married when I was 46 but to be honest, marriage wasn't something I had ever planned on. It crossed my mind in my early twenties when all my friends and co-workers were getting married but the thought didn't last. I really enjoyed my quiet, alone time and never wanted anyone else around. Then the divorces started and there were friends who were single again but not happily so and some had children that they were now solely responsible for so I was really glad I was still in my original single state. Most important, I never had a desire for children. I knew this from a very young age. I never felt a "biological clock" ticking away so I never put pressure on myself to either get married or have children.
    I guess what I'm trying to say is the best age to get married is an individual thing. It depends on what you want out of life. If a good marriage is all you're looking for then age doesn't matter but if you want children then I would recommend that you take into consideration that it will be better for both you, your husband, and your children if you marry and have them while you still have the energy to raise them--and not just in the toddler stage. If you wait until you're in your 40's to have your children you'll be in your 60's when they're teenagers.
    And if you're wondering why someone who never planned to get married got married, the answer is simple--life changes.

    1. Evane profile image56
      Evaneposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Great answer! I will surely take into consideration these ideas. Thank you so much.

  4. jackclee lm profile image80
    jackclee lmposted 21 months ago

    The correct answer is when you are ready. It could be 20 for some and never for others and any age in between. The important thing to remember is everyone is different. You should listen to your heart and don't let people around you inflence your decision. Good luck.

    1. Evane profile image56
      Evaneposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      So listen to your heart. Okay. Thank you.

  5. Venkatachari M profile image41
    Venkatachari Mposted 21 months ago

    In my times, that is, during the 1970s, most used to get married at the age of 25. I also got married at 23 and my wife was aged 20. But, now, my sons are aged above 35 and still lingering marriage. I am much worried because of them as they will not get an unmarried girl of within their age group.

    1. Evane profile image56
      Evaneposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Right. Good point there Venkatachari.

  6. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 21 months ago

    In your mid-to-late 20s. Your fertility starts to drop off after 30, so you want to marry sooner to have a stable family if you're going to have children. Marrying before 20, though, results in sky-high divorce rates.

    Statistically, the person you are going to marry is someone you are dating, know or are introduced to by a friend from your 20s. So don't try to swing through a bunch of fun relationships if you want to find a partner. This is musical chairs, and refusing to take the great guy while looking for a perfect one risks you being alone at the end.

    Note, most marriages do not end in divorce. Per Shaunti Feldman's research, if you're both college graduates, you have a 75% chance of staying married until one person's death while second marriages have a 50% chance of divorce. If you both have less than a high school degree, you're unlikely to marry and almost certain to divorce.
    The confusion that half of all marriages end in divorce came from 1970s status from when marriage rates dropped and divorce rates to the point divorce rates were half marriage rates. But marriage rates then rose and divorce rates fell.

    1. Evane profile image56
      Evaneposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Very factual! Highly appreciated Tamara. Thank you.

 
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