Which is the best age to marry?

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   dnrkrishnan25posted 13 years ago

   Which is the best age to marry?

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      seyiariposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      the best time to marry is the time you a truly prepared mentally , physically . emotionally, financially and spiritually. the time you are ready to accept and handle  every responsibility that comes your way

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      sstrombergposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely not young. I would say 23 is a good age.

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      There is no best age to marry. It is when a couple feels it is time or necessary to do.

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      Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      there is no best age, no magical number. Its hard work to stay married. When your old enough to withstand it, your old enough.
      It has a hell of alot more to do with maturity, then age.

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years ago

   When you're a year or two older than you were when you met your soulmate.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   when you become selfless and you are responsible enough (financially and emotionally ready)

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      maudine_05posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Amen!

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   ryankettposted 13 years ago

   Whatever age you are when in you fall in love with the person you would like to spend the rest of your life with? Otherwise, never.

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   Vizeyposted 13 years ago

   I do not have any problem with age untill and unless you love each other..

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   Ivorwenposted 13 years ago

   I don't believe there is a perfect age, however, a person needs to be old enough to take responsibility for their actions and treat the other with love, regardless of their feelings at the moment.

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   rhamsonposted 13 years ago

   I think there was a study that put the age of around thirty as a maturation point for most men.  I think that this is something that would have been best for me.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   in more developed countries men marry 27 yrs old on the average, women at 24,
   
   in developing countries, the ave. age in marrying is 25 for male and 21 for female..
   
   expected age to marry is always greater than the actual

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   myownworldposted 13 years ago

   um...how about never!

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      hi myownworld,

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      maudine_05posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Nope,You are too pretty to be alone myownworld

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      sandra rinckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is the perfect age.

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         prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         LOL

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    Vizeyposted 13 years ago

    myownworld wrote:
    um...how about never!
    .. lol..yeah..

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    torimariposted 13 years ago

    Damn, someone else beat me to Never!

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    myownworldposted 13 years ago

    LOL @ everyone!!! u all seemed to be waiting for that never!!
    didn't know I touched a sensitive spot there!!!

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       prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       everyone want that answer......LOL

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          myownworldposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          never say never pretty....!

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             prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             YAY< who invented marriage by the way!!

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                Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Satan, had to be Satan...

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    Ivorwenposted 13 years ago

    Personally, I can't imagine not being married.  It is one of the best things that has happened in my life.  I met my husband when I was 17, and knew he was the one I wanted to spend my life with.  We married when I was 20/he was 23.

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    TINA Vposted 13 years ago

    hi myownworld and torimari, it seems that you have fallen in love at an early age. . . hhmmm :-)
    
    nowadays, i think the average age to marry for male is 30 years old and for female is 27 years old.  A lot of people want to enjoy life and be prepared first before they settle down.
    
    have a great day!

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       myownworldposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       yep Tina, spot on! except not just fallen in love, but married him early too!! 21!! but hell, at that time it seemed like the best thing to do...!!

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          Poppa Bluesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Many have made that mistake myself included as noted in my new song, "I can't Think Of Nothing But Lovin". Live and learn!

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             TINA Vposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             yup, yup, we learn from our mistakes. live, learn and grow. . . i have a friend who have been engaged for 6 years and got married at the age of 27.  Unfortunately, they separated after a month, yes only 1 month, after their wedding. of well, you can never tell what will happen next. love and marriage is the greatest risk in life but it's worth trying. :-)

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                wychicposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Sounds like a familiar story to me...I was with my ex for five years, starting when I was 17, we got married when I was 22 and he was 26, then I left six weeks later. Of course, that's also a good example of why you should listen to your inner voice...turned out I was the obstacle to love rather than the object of it, and I'd even suspected it all along but decided not to believe it.
                
                As for the perfect age...I'll agree with the point at which you achieve a certain maturity, ability to commit, and an understanding for your partner, AND your partner has achieved the same. This age varies for everyone, but apparently the norms at least throughout the US have changed a bit. My SO was shocked when he moved here because everyone gets married so young...some get married while still in high school, but average in this area is 18-20 to either get married or have kids (and occasionally both). That's probably also why, at the age of 23, I'm far from the only one out of my high school graduating class (consisting of 32 people) that is already divorced. Live and learn

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    dejajolieposted 13 years ago

    Not sure what that 'perfect age' to marry is I haven't hit it yet, I'm 32 and haven't regretted a SINGLE day~ pun intended!

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    spartanking1978posted 13 years ago

    When I was still a teenager, a long time ago, my uncle told me..."No one should get married before they are at least 35 years old...you have to be able to live with yourself before anyone else can." Personally, I think that was excellent advice. But, I am 31 and married, so I guess the rules can be bent from time to time.

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    lyricsingrayposted 13 years ago

    never

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       spartanking1978posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Why does that response not surprise me?

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    IntimatEvolutionposted 13 years ago

    I'm not sure what the perfect age for marriage is, however I'd like to comment on what I think the perfect age to have a child is; 25.  So somewhere around that time maybe.

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       dejajolieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       About a child that was the age I had in mind, but that didn't happen.... so now what?

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          IntimatEvolutionposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Shoot, I couldn't tell ya.

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    ღMiZz Serenaღposted 13 years ago

    Marriage should be the joining of two people and their love for each other. I would have to say there is not a right or wrong age to get married by. You will both know when its the right time. If he isn't ready and you are you have to really think about why you want to get married and if he doesn't you need to find out why.
    
    Deciding to get married depends on each person, where they are at in life, how you feel about each other. If they are mature enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage because with marriage comes family, and that means children for most people. Knowing each others goals and where you want to be at, and how long it will take to get to where you want to be...financially secure and ready to have a family.
    
    Great question. I think it just depends on the person and situation.

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    The Ropeposted 13 years ago

    Actually I believe in getting together with your soulmate if you are responsible enough and willing to give more than you get but the answer that popped into my head was
    
    "just this side of never"

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    averagemomposted 13 years ago

    It's hard to determine.  When you think you're in love and feel he's the only one that will ever make you happy, then you make that decision to get married.  when married, however, the real world decisions hit you (and him) and apparently you feel you have made the wrong decision.  You can never tell.  There is no exact age, now that i have been married for 10 years I realize that I should have gotten married when I was finished with college, had a stable career that brought in money then we wouldn't be wasting our energy on abrupt fights over finances.  Yeah!  i would have waited if i had known that finance is something really, really important to have before marriage.  Or else......

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    Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years ago

    From 25 to 35 years old... That way you have had enough time to grow up and get to know yourself and are still young and strong enough to survive having kids.

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       earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I have even survived grand kids. It can be done if you start young enough. 25 is good if mature but some men should wait till after 50!

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    Bovine Currencyposted 13 years ago

    As early as possible, that way you realise the farce and get get on with life.

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       Bovine Currencyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       P.S.  This comment is not my absolute truth and yes it is tainted with cynicism

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    Black Lillyposted 13 years ago

    Best age is whenever you feel truly ready.
    For some people that's just 18, for others - 40+ is not enough.
    
    I'm 30 and I can't even THINK of committing to a simple relationship. Even that word scares me a lot - what marriage?!

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    logic,commonsenseposted 13 years ago

    Just before you die, ask Tiger Woods.

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    Disturbiaposted 13 years ago

    LOL... I'm on my fifth marriage, so I can't believe I'm even responding to this question.
    
    Personally, I don't believe and have never believed in "until death do us part" because people change over time. I think relationships of any kind including marriage have a sort of shelf-life.
    
    There is no "best" age to marry, any age works. It just all depends on the individuals and how mature and ready they are to be in a committed relationship.
    
    I say go for it whatever age you are and don't sweat the "forever" part, enjoy it while it lasts. There may actually be many "best ages" to marry in your lifetime.

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    commoncent$posted 13 years ago

    I don't think anyone out there is completely selfless or completely responsible or completely mature.  We all make mistakes some times, we act selfish and sometimes we are immature.
    
    Don't wait until you've reached these "goals" as you may be waiting forever.
    
    If you are already with the right person for you and you are in love and are wondering when would be the appropriate age I say between 27-30 is good.
    If you are above that then get married.

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    alexandriaruthkposted 13 years ago

    when you feel that you cant live without the other one, no age really

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    lyricsingrayposted 13 years ago

    I think 30 or of course there is always never

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       bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I'm with you on the 30 thing.  You need some time to do the shit you want to do and experince everything you want first.  That way you can say that you've done it and are ready to move on.

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    gusripperposted 13 years ago

    Never

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    Home Girlposted 13 years ago

    When I met my husband I thought he is the one and only. it took me 20 years to realise my mistake! Talk about being stupid!
    You have to marry when you fell like it( if you are of legal age of course)!

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       bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       That's why you need to go out and see what the world has to offer first.  At least have a chance to cruise the bar scene for a couple years while you try to figure out who you are and what makes you happy.

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          Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          if you figure out who you are at a bar, perhaps your best off not gettigng married...
          I was 23, had a kid, and 8 weeks pregnant when I got married and Im pretty sure I wasnt old enough...

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             bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             What I meant was that, at least for me, during my twenties I was a bit wild and had no idea what I wanted out of life.  As I got older I got tired of all of the running around thinking I was bulletproof and began realizing I needed more in my life.  As soon as I slowed down, I found my wife and learned that life is a lot better when you're not always chasing something.  I'm glad I went through that though.  If I hadn't, I probably would find the urge to explore that road later on and lose everything just to find it's a dead end.

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                Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                what I meant was....
                I have no clue how its supposed to go...
                Im glad your good with your wife!!!

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                   bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                   I just wanted to let you know that I wasn't saying that you have to grow up in a bar first.  That is the last thing I would recommend.  I just hate seeing kids getting married when they're 18 and have never experinced anything.  Then later on they feel like they got cheated out of their party years.

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                      Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      yeah, sorry. I forget other peopel are reading this. I did know what you mant, and am in a nasty sarcastic mood today. sorry.

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                         bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                         That's cool.  Let that nasty mood out.  I give you full permission to rip me a new one!

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                            Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                            
                            im toatlly destroying every thread Ive been in...im soooo going to get in trouble...
                            sorry OP

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                               bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                               What's got you pissed off today?

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                                  Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                  me

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                                     bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                     Hey check out the comment I left you on your new hub.  That should make you feel better.  You DOMINATE!

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                                        Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                        thanks. I did see it. I am out of good responses. but I will get back to it.

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                                           bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                           I'm not fishing for a response, I just wanted you to read it.  There is nothing for you to be pissed off about.  It's Friday... It's Who Gives a F U C K Friday!

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                                              Justine76posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                              oh brother.
                                              I know your not one to go fishing.  thank you very much.

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                                                 bloodnlatexposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                                 Hey I don't want to sound like I'm feeling sorry for you, but if you ever need to talk or vent to someone please feel free to email me.  As nothing more than a friend, I would love to listen to you and try to help you with what I can.  I don't judge anyone, and I call it the way I see it.  Honestly, Let me know.

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    Oh, about 85!

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       lyricsingrayposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Nice.  

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    mega1posted 13 years ago

    I would get married much younger, if I had it to do over, mainly in order to have my kids at a younger age, with more energy to give them.  But, I would also want to have my life in better shape then too - have a house, and career in place already before getting married.  So, probably I'm saying just have your life together as well as possible before you get married or have children!  20 to 25 ?

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    prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

    in the US, the average age to marry is 24 for women and 27 for men,
    
    there is no exact age to marry but I honestly think it should be after you are financially settled and emotionally prepared, that is after 18, I suppose, (below 18 your body is not yet matured if you want to have children too, and it is too young for emotional prob that goes with being married)
    
    People remarry though, affirming marriage as an institution --will continue to flourish as long as we have the need for emotional and financial security

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    sooner than laterposted 13 years ago

    Has anyone said 14 yet? thats how old my first wife was when we got married. Been together now for 35 years.

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