Why are relationships not lasting this days?

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  1. Ngozi Ebubedike profile image79
    Ngozi Ebubedikeposted 2 years ago

    Why are relationships not lasting this days?


  2. Alessio Ganci profile image78
    Alessio Ganciposted 2 years ago

    I wrote a hub about relationships in these days, and about the possible existence of "ethernal relationships". Maybe you can take a look: http://hubpages.com/relationships/Can-a … -over-time here is my opinion about why most relationships today seem not to last.

  3. nochance profile image91
    nochanceposted 2 years ago

    People don't communicate like they used to. Many interactions in relationships are no longer face to face. It's difficult to understand meaning from emails and text messages.

    My husband and I always made sure never to fight through text. We would go and see each other face to face and actually talk it out. I don't think enough people do that.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    1. People choose the "wrong mate" for themselves
    (Learned they had different values or a "deal breaker" was committed. Anyone with an ounce of self-esteem has "deal breakers" and boundaries.)
    2. They expect people to "change" for them.
    (If you loved me you would do what (I) want you to do.)
    3. They have unrealistic expectations
    (Commitment means I can STOP doing all the things I did to win your heart and you won't leave me!)
    4. They got together for the wrong reasons.
    (An ultimatum was given, had an age goal for marriage, all of their friends were in serious relationships or married, mate has money, there was an unplanned pregnancy, or they HATED being single)
    5. They grew apart and stopped wanting the same things.
    (There's no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does NOT want what you want.")
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
    In the U.S. it has been reported that (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings. It has been speculated that better job/career opportunities and higher income has made it much easier to leave (unhappy marriages) than it was in earlier eras such as the 1950s.
    The more "options" one has the less crap they will put up with! smile

  5. Ngozi Ebubedike profile image79
    Ngozi Ebubedikeposted 2 years ago

    Somewhere along the line, we seem to have lost our respect and love for each other both as a person and as lovers. Mistrust

    Social and moral values are being flagrantly trampled upon daily, no more respect for values and traditions. Irresponsibility

    Relationships have become a rat-race activity, no more standards, and no marked guidelines; people no more adhere to due processes and normal protocols when it comes to seeking and committing to romantic intentions. Lack of morality.

    There is no more cultivated relationship, what we have is an instant flare of passion which goes off so fast too. No depth because there was no deep root.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      This could be solved if people chose mates who shared their same values, wanted the same things for the relationship, naturally agreed on how to obtain those things, and last but not least had a mutual depth of love and desire. Compatibility!

    2. Ngozi Ebubedike profile image79
      Ngozi Ebubedikeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Compatibility!, yes, but even that is no longer enough to make relationship last because of what I called shifting perspectives. .Economical changes, maturity and emotional growth alter a lot of things in one's life.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      People who are "in love", enjoy each other's company, share the same values, & want the same things for the relationship can weather the storms.
      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
      Without true compatibility it's over!


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