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Would it make you empathise with a sociopath if someone said "hurt people hurt p

  1. threekeys profile image80
    threekeysposted 18 months ago

    Would it make you empathise with a sociopath if someone said "hurt people hurt people"?


  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 18 months ago


    No, everyone who has ever lived has been hurt!
    Throwing pity parties and empathizing with those who lack control over their emotions is equivalent to giving them a "free pass".
    The so called "battered wife"  and "Stockholm syndrome" are examples of a psychological phenomenon where the abused/oppressed person expresses empathy and sympathy or has positive feelings toward those who hurt them. It's been said:
    "The first law of nature is self preservation."
    Whenever one loves their abuser more than they love them self they will "look for ways" to justify staying rather than leave.
    Another misconception is the abused person believes they can "change" or "heal" the abuser (by loving him or her even more)!
    If they've been told by the abuser how everyone has hurt them or abandoned them in the past this causes some victims to want to be "the exception". They will take all of their crap in hopes of proving to them that they really do love him/her hoping this will change them.
    Life is too short to be trying to "fix people" or take on "projects".
    The goal is to find someone who (already is) the kind of person you want to be with! If you don't like where you are... leave!
    Thankfully there are over 7 Billion other people on this planet!
    One man's opinion! smile

    1. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      Real and insightful dashingscorpio, Thankyou..

  3. manatita44 profile image83
    manatita44posted 18 months ago

    The spirit of empathy is like putting oneself in the other persons shoes; trying to feel what they feel. It is not sympathy, but a feeling of oneness. Of course I know you know this, right?

    A mother comes into a bus or train. She is pushing a pram with twin babies, and the pram also have to carry the shopping which could easily be two or three full bags. She is visibly tired and shouts at the children.

    It may be useful to offer a seat, assist with stabilising her pram, plus a few kind words of support. She won't want a lecture on bringing up children at this point.

    You do not want to hurt people, and yes the sociopath may be hurt too. The golden rule is always to use one's wisdom. Sometimes empathy means getting out of the way; a silent prayer; an opportunity to serve, should the need arise. Inner conscience will dictate, if we listen.

    Man is essentially Spirit and empathy is a reaching out to Spirit. Still God is in dirty and clean water, but we drink only the clean one. Logic or prudence is necessary. Finally, firmness and strength also comes from the Divine. Much Love, ThreeKeys.

    1. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      Following one's inner direction....thankyou manitita

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 18 months ago

    Sometimes the issue is if the situation and social group seems to support it. Whether it is a lynch mob in the 1920s of a black man, Muslim mob chasing down Christians in Egypt today, Muslim mobs with machetes killing atheists in Bangladesh and Pakistan, BLM attacking an innocent white man for being white, the social justice crowd ganging up and bullying someone online and then taking it offline to try to destroy someone's job and relationships ... hurting others becomes OK when you have a good excuse and social justification and support for doing so.
    But one sociopath saying those words won't do it unless you already wanted to do so, and most won't.

    1. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      Different and insightful viewpoint. I thank you.