Is it really possible to love someone that you honestly don't like?

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   L. Spikesposted 13 years ago

   Is it really possible to love someone that you honestly don't like?
   
   Or are people just fooling themselves for whatever reason they feel justified in using?

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   galleryofgraceposted 13 years ago

   It happens all the time in abusive relationships. The abuser  is dearly  loved by the  victim. There is that eternal hope that they will change. The abuser and their behavior are definitely not liked but the love the victim has for the abuser keeps the pattern  going.

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   vox vocisposted 13 years ago

   How can you love somebody you don't like? That doesn't seem possible to me.

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   dunkah63posted 13 years ago

   As galleryoffgrace said...it happens all of the time. Just think of a Pimp. Everybody knows that a pimp is a lowlife scum that preys on and exploits women. But the women that he exploits at one point loved or still do love him even though they are being exploited and abused. I'm sure many of the women don't like him but he is aware of certain emotional triggers that get his women to love him and to do anything for him.

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   TKs viewposted 13 years ago

   In my opinion, what galleryof grace and dunkah63 are talking about is not love, but a behavior of an addictive personality. i feel it is possible to have love for everyone. but to be, 'in love' with someone, requires a foundation where you like the other person.

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   KateWestposted 13 years ago

   Aside from an abusive relationship, which I cannot comprehend, I think this is very true with family members. You can pick your friends, but not your family. So for instance, if one member was not related to you (theoretically), you might not be friends with this person because he/she drives you crazy; however, because you are all family, you love them anyway.

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   KiandraRutledgeposted 13 years ago

   I honestly think this is possible.  I believe you can have affection for a person and care about them, but not like their ways.

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   Stephilibooposted 13 years ago

   I don't think you can. There has to be an alliance with all feelings in order for the connection to be completely there.

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   I once read that although there are many different types of love (romantic, parent/child, etc.), the two things every kind of love has (if it's right) is respect for, and admiration of, the other person.
   
   I'd think that if you don't like someone there are some things about them, or that they do, that you don't respect and/or admire; so based on that, I don't think you can really love someone you don't like.
   
   I do think, though, you can really love someone whose behavior you don't like.  Also, I know you can love someone but be angry at them and therefore feel (for the moment) as if you don't like them.
   
   We often hear parents say they "love but don't like" their child.  In fact, some parents actually tell their child that.  I really think such parents need to sort out whether it's their child's behavior they aren't happy with, or whether they're angry with the child for the moment; and stop using that particular phrase/sentence to inaccurately describe their temporarily ambivalent feelings toward their child.  OR, if they can't truly feel they both love and like the person that their child is, they should at least try to act as if they do (or maybe even consider finding someone who would make a more loving parent to that child). 
   
   I think in most parents' cases, this is just a careless and inadequately thought-out thing they say (maybe because they've heard others say it), and they just need someone to point out those differences between not liking behavior, being angry with, and actually disliking the person himself.

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    Eric Winshipposted 13 years ago

    Depends on what you are asking.  Are you asking if they can love someone or be 'in love' with someone they do not like?  Those are two very different things.  If you have a couple is married for 15 years and one cheats on the other.  Then they leave the house and empty the bank account.  The victim probably hates the person now.  They are probably not 'in love' with the person any longer.  But in that persons heart, they do still love the other.  If adulterer were to die in an accident, the victim would most likely still weep and grieve for a long time for their loss.  So then the answer is 'yes' one can love the other even though they may hate them.  But I don't believe that one can be 'in love' with another and hate them at the same time.

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    dredcuanposted 13 years ago

    Possible I guess especially if you accept everything about him/her.  Like one of the famous quote says: "Love is BLIND".  So you'll surely like/love someone even if you really don't like him/her at first once.

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    cephlaposted 13 years ago

    No. If you like somebody, you can't possible love them. To be, liking must always come before any loving.

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    whiplashinfoposted 13 years ago

    Two contradicting feelings. But this can be possible this way. At first you hate him so much because there is something on him you don't like, but as times go by and you get to know him better and prove to yourself that he is not what you think, you may learn to love him.

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    Hunbbel Meerposted 13 years ago

    I believe, one cannot remain and act as an artificial person for his entire life. So, a person cannot love someone who he doesn't honestly even like.

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    Del Sandeenposted 13 years ago

    For me, it depends on your personal beliefs. As a Christian, I love all people, even those who hate me, but that doesn't mean I have to like them. If you're strictly talking about personal relationships, yes, I still think you can love someone, like a mother will still love her child, but she may not like the person that child is.

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    adrisenasearsposted 13 years ago

    Love is about kindness and understanding. You just are able to love if you love yourself. In my opinion the best definition of love is 1Corinthians 13:  4-7 : " "Love is patient and caring. Love is not envious or boastful or proud. It is not rude, not selfish, not easily angered or resentful. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. "
    Other important fact: You like things, food, dance, music...Love is for who have a soul and a sincere and pure heart.

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    stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

    There was a time, shortly after a breakup of a serious relationship, where I felt I was still so much in love with my former partner.  But I did not like him, nor want to be with him; Because he cheated on me, and because he broke my heart. So I would say yes it possible to love someone that you don't like.

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    This question is impossible!  How did you come up with this one?!?!?!  It is logically impossible to love someone you do not like and if you do, something is not functionally functioning.

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    john-veganposted 13 years ago

    If you don't like that person then no need to do love.....

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    ArtAsLifeposted 13 years ago

    I hate this girl from my past, as a person she is terrible to others, we have nothing in common, but I love her, as a romantic partner we were everything, how is it ossible? no idea.. but yes, from person experience, you can fall in love with someone you absolutely despise

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