What is true love?

  1. profile image57
    Sandy wickposted 20 months ago

    What is true love?

    Why doesn't it always exist..

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 20 months ago


    Each person defines love for his or herself.
    There's no such thing as a "universal definition" for love.
    Everyone has their own idea of what love is suppose to (feel like, look like, and how people "in love" should behave towards one another.)
    Each of us has our own "must have list".
    If someone isn't loving us (the way) we want we don't (feel) loved!
    Therefore "true love" essentially becomes finding someone who (loves you the way {you} want to be loved) and having your expectations met. Until that happens you don't feel loved.
    It's not unheard of to hear someone say:
    "If you loved me you would...etc"
    For example a wife might feel taken for granted or not special because her husband doesn't compliment her, buy her token gifts, make the effort to come up with romantic getaways and surprises.... She doesn't (feel) loved.
    And yet if an intruder broke into their home he'd die to protect her.
    Can she honestly say her husband doesn't love her???
    You asked: Why doesn't it always exist?
    Choosing the wrong mate! (There are 7 Billion to choose from!)
    The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another. Compatibility trumps compromise!
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
    One of the reasons why people choose the wrong mate for themselves is because they never took the time to do any serious introspective thinking to figure out who they are let alone what they want and need in a mate for life.
    They allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance " to dictate their relationship decisions.
    It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
    Others subscribe to the "follow your heart" philosophy regarding love which usually means ignore "red flags", just (feel) and leave your brain at home. This often happens when we're young and unrealistic. You found your "soul-mate" at 17.
    And there are those who knowingly get involved with people who do not have their "must have traits" but they (hope) he/she will change over time.
    Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
    There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.
    "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
    - Oscar Wilde


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