is it possible??

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   greeneyesH1982posted 15 years ago

   is it possible to start having feelings for someone again even if you havent been with them and you rarely see them for the last 3-4 years or even a few years longer? OR did you never lose feelings for them in the first place? I am wondering about others opinion on this

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   I don't think affection for friends and even ex's ever dies, like a ember just don't obsess over it lol

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      greeneyesH1982posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      there is a specific reason I ask this but its kinda personal obsession is a totally different topic.. I am just wondering what the reason would be for having feelings for someone that you were with years ago and this whole time they have never went away ya know.. this is a person in my life who is still in my life and it sort of puts a dent on any new relationships that I do get into because they dont like the fact that I have someone who is very close to me who I used to date around.... but i am not going to stop talking with this person because they are still very important in my life.. this person knows EVERYTHING about me and he is my best friend and he knows this... he has given me many opportunities to tell him how I still feel about him but still to this day I can never give a direct answer so I am pretty sure this is why nothing ever develops or has the chance to because I did the same thing to him when we actually WERE in a relationship together lol I know sounds confusing... the thing is this we both know where we stand only I never want to say exactly how I feel so I dont and even after all these years I still cant bring myself to say it... even when the opportunity is right in my face.

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         greeneyesH1982posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         i also would like to add that he is the only person I keep around as far as the exes go... all my other exes and I dont have the same kind of relationship we dont speak at all... hes the only one besides my sons father of course

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   As I said. Affection never dies and I have found accepting that once upon a time love did exist, makes for moving on with life, a lot easier. I have had guy probs after breaking up so I can't really say anything but I understand how a new guy would be confused with hanging onto a ex- as there is that 'friends with benefits' stuff that goes on yeah, my childrens fathers still kick around but way over yonder lol

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      greeneyesH1982posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      but theres a problem because my old friend here see he and I still have very deep serious conversations... sort of like one would if they was happily married type of thing and when the question arises about how I feel about him I for some reason start making jokes or I dance around the bush without directly answering him.. in other words I am supposed to say look I love you I always have loved you sorry for bein such a moron about it and not telling you years ago when I should have and lets live happily ever after now... this is the response he has been looking for for such a long time.. I still get crap about this whole me not being honest with him from people who remember our relationship before... the reason we broke up in the first place was because I was a total airhead and basically broke his heart into a million pieces... maybe the fact that I dont want to admit I was wrong is playing a part in this? all I know is he still gives me the opportunity to tell him I have been in love with him this entire time but I never say it. maybe I still need to grow up some?

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   Ah, yup, your inability to be honest with yourself will prevent honesty with others. Trust is part of love and you either relinquish it for a relationship or hide it and yourself from others. Choice is yours what you want.

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      greeneyesH1982posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      
      ya know he is on my myspace page and there have been many many times where im up late at night and i go to his page start writing him an email about EVERYTHING... and I mean just lettin it all out there... He knows everything about me anyways except for this one LITTLE TINY thing... but everytime I start writing it i immediately start erasing it and thinking omg what am I doing hes gonna think I am total nuts! I really love him still to this day and I only want him to be happy no matter with who or what hes doing with his life... he knows this and if we go too long without talking he does write me back... but then again it just may be one of those things where I let happiness go because of my own fears in life.. and after everything I did to him it probably wouldnt be the same anyways but I cant help but notice the fact that hes the ONLY one of my passed who I still think about care about have feelings for and we still have that same kind of conversation like we always did... and tonight of course I started writing him again which is what brought this whole topic on and I did the same crap I always do I erased it and it never got sent... but I think I just may actually send it this time... I dunno though I get too scared and normally I am not the type that is afraid to say what I want or need to say lol ohhhh the irony!!!

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   Has_aWayWithWordsposted 15 years ago

   Well I have been divorced for 2 years almost and everytime I see a picture of her and my daughter or when I talk to her I practically melt, I guess my answer is that if you truly love that person it never dies.

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   efeguyposted 15 years ago

   when there is love before the space,then its possible that one cant forget.

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