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Commitment in a relationship.

  1. Noork11 profile image74
    Noork11posted 7 weeks ago

    What do you think the word "Commitment" in a relationship means?

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 7 weeks agoin reply to this

      A commitment is a pledge or agreement to dedicate one’s efforts to insure a desired result. The proof of a "commitment" is based upon (behavior).

      Some people mistakenly believe commitment is attached to a relationship or marital (status). However it would be unwise to enter into an "exclusive relationship"  or marriage with someone who has failed to (behave) in accordance with what you want. There are lots of married couples whose (behavior) shows they are NOT committed. There are also couples like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell who have lived together for more than 30 years and appear to be totally committed to one another.
      Essentially "commitment" behavior comes before marriage or exclusivity.

      Commitments are not written in stone.
      New information changes everything! If you agree to follow someone heading East to watch the sunset and along the way you discover their strategy is flawed. You realize you should be headed West…You are not under any obligation to keep going in the WRONG direction just because you agreed to stick with them. Relationships are living {evolving} things.

      Communication is your GPS navigational tool to keep track of where you are heading. It lets you know if you're growing together or growing apart.

      A commitment is only good for as long as both parties agree on a strategy to reach a desired goal. Being committed to someone does not mean you “turn off your brain ”. You are still entitled to have “deal breakers”.

      In fact if you don’t have them odds are you don’t love yourself or you have low self-esteem. The goal is to find a "soulmate" not a "cellmate"!


      1. Noork11 profile image74
        Noork11posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

        I loved your answer. It is so true. Commitment is behavior. Thank you for sharing this informative reply. Let's pray that the people who are far away from understanding commitment in a relationship will get that behavior.

  2. threekeys profile image80
    threekeysposted 7 weeks ago

    I echo dashingscorpio's views in relationship to what "commitment" means.
    I feel only now marriages can be a evolving unit rather than a ball and chain situation as it used to be. People are begining to see and want their partners and themselves to grow so they can become  better versions of themselves.
    I personally believe you  dont need a marriage licence to say that your are committed to your partner and your relationship.

    1. Noork11 profile image74
      Noork11posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your reply. I believe that commitment relates to the idea of respecting your partner and his existence in your life. Of course you will love for him/her what you love for yourself and you will be there to help improve himself no matter what.

  3. RJ Schwartz profile image93
    RJ Schwartzposted 7 weeks ago

    It’s a joint affirmation to go “all in” on whatever the earth and sky throws at you; two hearts agreeing to a single synchronized beat pattern where they share ups and downs equally; two souls cohabitating in the same space and agreeing to overlook the small stuff and make it work.....

    1. Noork11 profile image74
      Noork11posted 6 weeks agoin reply to this

      Exactly. Relationships are all about being together in everything.