Commitment in a relationship.
A commitment is a pledge or agreement to dedicate one’s efforts to insure a desired result. The proof of a "commitment" is based upon (behavior).
Some people mistakenly believe commitment is attached to a relationship or marital (status). However it would be unwise to enter into an "exclusive relationship" or marriage with someone who has failed to (behave) in accordance with what you want. There are lots of married couples whose (behavior) shows they are NOT committed. There are also couples like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell who have lived together for more than 30 years and appear to be totally committed to one another.
Essentially "commitment" behavior comes before marriage or exclusivity.
Commitments are not written in stone.
New information changes everything! If you agree to follow someone heading East to watch the sunset and along the way you discover their strategy is flawed. You realize you should be headed West…You are not under any obligation to keep going in the WRONG direction just because you agreed to stick with them. Relationships are living {evolving} things.
Communication is your GPS navigational tool to keep track of where you are heading. It lets you know if you're growing together or growing apart.
A commitment is only good for as long as both parties agree on a strategy to reach a desired goal. Being committed to someone does not mean you “turn off your brain ”. You are still entitled to have “deal breakers”.
In fact if you don’t have them odds are you don’t love yourself or you have low self-esteem. The goal is to find a "soulmate" not a "cellmate"!
- threekeysposted 6 years ago
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