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What mistakes can you make in the beginning of a relationship?

  1. soconfident profile image83
    soconfidentposted 4 years ago

    What mistakes can you make in the beginning of a relationship?

  2. Diana Lee profile image81
    Diana Leeposted 4 years ago

    The biggest mistake is to move too fast.  Take it slow, get to know each other and enjoy the friendship first. A lover can pressure your emotions into something you may not be ready for.

  3. Rich W2K profile image88
    Rich W2Kposted 4 years ago

    Don't think that the other person holds the same beliefs as you. I'm not talking about religion. As a silly example, which could cause arguments later, a person could be brought up to always wash the plates and cutlery straight after using them while you and your family usually wait till the sink is full and do a big washing up. Try to keep an open mind to what little values like these your partner has and work together to come up with new, fun ways of doing things.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image89
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Ignoring "red flags" early on in relationship can be costly. Another major mistake is assuming you are on the same page. One person believes they have an "exclusive" relationship just because they spend a lot of time together. You always have to discuss things or else you leave yourself wide open for the other person to correctly state: "I never said...etc"
    It pays to listen to what is and what is not said.
    Giving away trust instead of allowing the other person to (earn) your trust is another common mistake. Having a "fly by the seat of your pants or "wherever the wind takes me" approach to new relationships AKA (follow your heart).
    Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.
    One man's opinion! :-)

  5. Victoria Anne profile image96
    Victoria Anneposted 4 years ago

    I agree with Diana. Becoming too attached and/or dependent on a person early on can lead to disaster. I think a common mistake is becoming to wrapped up in the excitement of a new relationship and forgetting to take time for yourself, your friends, family, work, etc.

  6. Jade89 profile image86
    Jade89posted 4 years ago

    Being naive. You can't afford to be naive. It's okay to be open to loving someone but at the same time you need to be open-minded too. If you allow yourself to fall too fast, take everything he/she does as being perfect or the truth or just go into it without having your eyes wide open or being observant, you could land yourself getting your heart broken!

  7. eddiecarrara profile image94
    eddiecarraraposted 4 years ago

    Not being your true self when you're around the other person, if you pretend to be someone you're not, it will all go up in smoke sooner or later, and to me, that would be a total waste of time.

  8. IDONO profile image83
    IDONOposted 4 years ago

    Thinking that you know the other person better than you actually do. Odds are, your perception of that person will be higher than they are able to live up to. Too high of expectations lead to disappointment and it's not their fault. Under estimating that person can result in you being patronizing, which makes you seem quite arrogant. It's just bad all the way around.

  9. Beata Stasak profile image82
    Beata Stasakposted 4 years ago

    Get to close too fast, start to be possessive and demanding and controling....

  10. TKirTigs profile image75
    TKirTigsposted 4 years ago

    When entering a relationship respect and care for the other person. Do not lie and try not to be selfish. Follow your heart and allow the journey of love to happen. Do not rush it, do not manipulate it, do not control it. Let it be and let it blossom into the energy it is meant to be.

  11. RominaD profile image61
    RominaDposted 4 years ago

    -take your time and dont rush things.DONT mention anything about commitments such as marriage,children or anything else that might freak out the other person.
    - avoid jealousy
    -be yourself, if the other person cant accept you then you shouldnt be together
    -dont let lies be the foundation of the relationship smile

  12. leilabarda profile image59
    leilabardaposted 4 years ago

    I think it's demand and expect too much...

  13. Acmontero profile image60
    Acmonteroposted 4 years ago

    In the beginning of a relationship, the worse mistake you can make is lie. A lie can turn into the end of the relationship before it even begins. Trust is everything. Once it's broken that will be very hard to regain if possible at all.

  14. fpherj48 profile image78
    fpherj48posted 4 years ago

    If you have reached the point of committing to a "relationship," I would assume you've both made it to where you agree it's "well worth a try".  This is good, but only Step 1. 
    As others have said here, do not be in a hurry to attach yourself to anyone, too soon.  Always....ALWAYS be your true self.....and under no circumstances should you begin to become so comfortable and trusting, that you're willing to ignore Big Red Flags.  When love is in the air.....it is far too easy to excuse and/or overlook things that, in your heart of hearts, you simply do not agree with or accept as right and proper...per your own personal beliefs.   In other words.....do not go overboard to bend for him/her, despite being uncomfortable.  Have FUN together and learn to appreciate all aspects of each other's personalities.   Give and take...share equally....and pay attention to the "little things."
    Meet family and friends, which will help greatly, in getting to know so much more about the person you are with......and how he/she interacts with those closest to him/her....
    There's a lot to learn about a new love......be willing to let a relationship evolve with ease and honesty.

  15. edhan profile image62
    edhanposted 4 years ago

    Not being truthful when it is needed. In every relationship, I believe it is important to be truthful from the start otherwise it may be a problem down the road.

  16. brakel2 profile image80
    brakel2posted 4 years ago

    A big mistake is not being yourself but doing everything to please partner. As time passes, you will become resentful and return to doing your own thing and totally confuse partner. This has actually happened and ruined relationships.

  17. ketage profile image82
    ketageposted 4 years ago

    Not being yourself, would top my list, in a new relationship everyone is usually on their best behavior, this can only be sustained for a limited period of time before the stress tears the relationship apart.
    Being dishonest, need I say more on this ?
    Going to fast / going to slow
    Not communicating, this becomes a habit, if you do not communicate at the start of a relationship, it will only get harder to communicate the longer you are together.
    geez this list could go on for quite a bit more smile