The Likelihood of Divorce

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   mtkomoriposted 4 years ago

   What are the characteristics of a married couple that increase the likelihood of their divorce?
   
   There are some obvious characteristics, such as the husband is physically violent towards the wife, the husband doesn`t work, and addictions, whether it be drug abuse or porn addiction. Can you think of any other characteristics?

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      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      1. Lack of natural compatibility (You're too incompatible.)
      
      Compatibility trumps compromise.
      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
      
      There is no amount of "communication" or "work" which can overcome being with someone who simply does NOT want what you want.
      
      Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
      The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want in mate.
      
      2. You don't share the same values. (A "deal breaker" was committed.)
      
      Each of us is entitled to have our own boundaries and "deal breakers".
      These may vary from person to person such as cheating, verbal/physical abuse, neglect, drug/alcohol/gambling/porn addiction, engaging in criminal behavior, abusing/molesting one's children, being financially irresponsible and putting the family and household at risk of instability.
      
      3. Failing to continue to nurture the relationship. (You fell out of love.)
      
      When it comes to relationships and marriage there is no neutral.
      We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".
      Communication is the GPS for relationships and it lets us know which direction we're heading in. Each partner must let the other know if their needs are NOT being met before they emotionally/physically withdraw.
      No one wants to be taken for granted or ignored emotionally/physically.
      No one is "stuck" with anyone! Suffering is optional.
      
      'Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.'
      - C.S. Lewis
      
      Relationships are like gardens in that if nurture them they thrive and if you neglect them they die.
      
      It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!
      
      

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 4 years ago

   ... when the other person is critical, unkind and unappreciative.

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