Which COMES First

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   gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

   
   When one enters marriage &/or parenthood, his/her PRIMARY concern should be with the financial, emotional, & psychological welfare of the spouse &/or children, NOT their original family.  However, there are THOSE who put their ORIGINAL family before their spouses, even their own children which is WRONG.   Would you ever enter into a relationship or marrying a person who PUTS his/her ORIGINAL family before the spouse & children? For many people, this would be a relationship DEAL breaker.  When one gets married &/or become a parent, the ORIGINAL family isn't as important or even LESS IMPORTANT than his/her CURRENT family.  If a person PRIORITIZE his/her ORIGINAL FAMILY then h/she SHOULDN'T get married nor have children. When one is married &/or a parent, his/her FOCUS should be on the spouse &/or children.

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      Castlepalomaposted 3 years agoin reply to this

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      MizBejabbersposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I agree whole heartedly. I'm in my second marriage, and I've been fortunate to have two good sets of in-laws. But in between marriages, I broke off a relationship with a man who always put his mother first. He explained to me that she was in a "bad second marriage" and needed his emotional support. But to me those 30 minute or longer telephone calls several times a day, especially when they interrupted a date or just a meal that we were trying to enjoy indicated a confirmed "mama's boy". I correct a previous statement.  He had a mental breakdown, and we both agreed to break off the relationship. I don't understand women, especially those in third world countries, whose marriages are dominated by their in-laws. In such a relationship, even the man's mother takes the part of the men over the wife, and thus another vicious abuse cycle begins.

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         gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

         When one gets married &/or become a parent, the original family is no longer important.  The MOST IMPORTANT is the CURRENT family-the spouse &/or child(ren).   The ORIGINAL family is simply inconsequential.   No one should put the ORIGINAL family before the spouse &/or child(ren).  If one is EXCESSIVELY close to the ORIGINAL family, it is BEST that h/she REMAIN SINGLE.  H/she SHOULDN'T GET MARRIED in the first place.

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