When he moves on first...
That's why I do NOT believe what they SAY, only what they DO
Long ago my boss told me this: whatever effort you make, it's the result that matters; if there's no result, your efforts are worth nothing.
And despite it being referred to business matters, it proves to be even more true in romantic relationships. Discovered this quite recently though - had I understood this about 10 years ago, life might have been very, very different now.
In your case it does not matter what he said or did - the result is his engagement with someone else. And this is a FACT, the rest is just bulls**t. Sorry for being so blunt..I am afraid this is going to come off sounding hauty and callous but here it goes:
You posted this because consciencely or subconsciencely you needed permission to be angry and be told to get over it. In the most respectful way possible, you have got it. I say this because it is what I did. No matter how you feel, the proof that he lied, again, therefore toying with you further is beyond aggrevating.
Be angry, have a good cry, then erase every reminder you can of him and focus on you and you alone. Unless of course you have kids then focus on them, too, but you get the point!
You're welcome. You most likely will never know why. You need to get to that point where knowing why no longer matters, you need to get that angry and tell yourself that the reason behind his actions doesn't matter-only the result. Men of poor character often keep one woman dangling until they either know the current one will be enough or the one dangling refuses to hold on. so long as you beat yourself up over the what-if's and whys and what did I dos, he still has some remnant of hold over you. He doesn't deserve that satisfaction, move on for yourself, move on to spite him, or both, LOL, just move on!
I Hope that helps.
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