Cyber Affairs

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   Chastened Writerposted 14 years ago

   Have you ever had a cyber affair with a fellow hubber?  Do you consider this to be cheating?

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      Maddie Ruudposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I have a love/hate relationship with the forums.  (Hate moderating them, love participating in them.)  Does that count?

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      tony0724posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Uhhh you might consider re connecting with the real world

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         wavegirl22posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         OMG tony  .. so you mean after all this time our cyber affair means nothing to you

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      mistyhorizon2003posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting question. I have never done this, whether here or online in general, but if I found out my Husband had been "having a virtual affair" (for want of a better description), I think I would feel just as angry and hurt as if he had been having an actual affair. Betrayal is on an emotional level as much as a physical one, sex is sex, but being in love is emotional, mental, therefore you can betray this online just as much as if you physically sleep with another person. After all, before you slept with your partner you were in love on an emotional level without sex surely!

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   Teresa McGurkposted 14 years ago

   Cheating what? (I mean, cheating because it isn't a real affair?)

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      Chastened Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Right.  Shared intimate feelings, emotions, "phone" or"chat sex".  Some people would not consider that to be cheating.  What do you think?

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   Mom Katposted 14 years ago

   It all depends on what you define as cheating.  For some people emotional and intelectual connections are just as important as physical ones.
   My fiance and I both agree that an online affair is still cheating.  Others don't think it is.
   This would be something to discuss with the person you are with to see where the line is and to make sure it is not crossed.

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   Justsilvieposted 14 years ago

   Yes it is cheating and the danger of it going to real-time is there. I speak from experience.
   
   We live in another country and he swore it was nothing and it would never go to real time. He would never fly to her.  No problem she paid to fly here and spend a two week vacation with him all expenses paid on her. Hard to resist such an offer I guess when you are already going through a crisis.
   
   But as in all cyber affairs you never know what you get and now he does want what he found. Our relationship may be over because I don't know if I can forgive him. He is sad and so I am I. What a waste.
   
   Hint, that ethereal natural fairy like creature with a back pack on the Internet may just run out to be someone else and most often are.  Cheaters are rarely themselves on the net, probably not in real life either.
   
   If you want have a cyber affair, start the effort on your own partner, I bet he or she will be just as thrilled with romantic hearts and flowers and they are there in “REAL LIFE”. 
   
   Maybe you won’t find the need to cheat after all.

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      SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ..that's too bad that happened justsilvie....yes, what a waste..

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