Are cheaters always cheaters?

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  1. CreativeOrange profile image64
    CreativeOrangeposted 13 years ago

    I heard that the answer to this question is Yes, although I wouldn't know for sure.  I am sure there are always exceptions.

  2. lorlie6 profile image75
    lorlie6posted 13 years ago

    I believe maturity can 'reform' a cheater.  I have been with my hubby for 22 years now, and we both strayed years ago.  Those days are over, and we are extremely content with one another.

  3. WriteAngled profile image74
    WriteAngledposted 13 years ago

    I think it depends on the reason why someone looks for something outside a relationship.

  4. NewYorker profile image58
    NewYorkerposted 13 years ago

    Yes. People don't change, people hide.

    1. Hokey profile image58
      Hokeyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I totally disagree. People most definitely can change. I did.

      1. tantrum profile image62
        tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        Were you a cheater ? yikes
        I have never met a cheater that changed his ways lol

        1. Hokey profile image58
          Hokeyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          No. Not a cheater. Just an addict. But that is a whole different kind of  affair. Just the statement that people don't change. Not true.

          1. tantrum profile image62
            tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            An addict is a different thing.
            An Addiction is adisease, while cheating all the time,is a mind disorder

            1. NewYorker profile image58
              NewYorkerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

              Mind disorder may be right. I just think it's a lack of self respect, lack of respect for your spouse and pure idiotism. People who can do it over and over again without feeling any guilt are mentally unstable, and that's just a fact.

  5. Cagsil profile image72
    Cagsilposted 13 years ago

    Cheaters are simply people who cannot control their sexual urges. They are weaklings of the mind and morally wrong in their actions.

    Do they change? Yes, everyone evolves forward because maturity forces you to maintain a stronger control over your life in this specific area.

  6. LaVieja profile image61
    LaViejaposted 13 years ago

    I would instinctively say yes. However, my friend had a very unhappy marriage, had an affair, got divorced and is now happily married with two children to the person she had the affair with, so the jury is still out...

  7. Anath profile image63
    Anathposted 13 years ago

    I don't think I can change.  I can have non-cheating periods while I am totally in love, but if temptation is too big... I just cannot stop myself hmm

  8. torimari profile image67
    torimariposted 13 years ago

    Some do, some don't. A change has to be something they want to do or comes with experience...however, if someone cheated on me, change or not, no second chances. :]

  9. profile image0
    cosetteposted 13 years ago

    i think anyone can change, especially when they find someone really awesome to love them. even a cheater wouldn't jeopardize that.

    then again, there are some men who are sex addicts or something and even if they have a gorgeous loving wife at home who cherishes them, they'll cheat anyway for the thrill of it.

    these men are called "lost causes". wink

  10. Catalyst_LA profile image60
    Catalyst_LAposted 13 years ago

    It's really impossible to say because there are far too many variables that come into play. I believe the majority of cheaters will remain cheaters (until they're unable to do so) but I'm sure there are other cases in which the person changes.

    From my experience, never date someone who has cheated before because they are far more likely to do it again and it's ridiculous to think you can change that person. I've seen plenty of cases where someone could be dating the perfect guy or girl and still they cheat. As Ludacris once said: "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife, hoes don't act right".

  11. Ms.Lavae profile image61
    Ms.Lavaeposted 13 years ago

    Yes and no.
    I think it all depends on exactly why someone cheats. For instance if someone feels abandoned by there spouse because their always working. and then they go and find someone who can always be their, then i think that can be fixed, by the wife being their more. But if the wife is always their and doing her duties by being loving and caring and all the things a wife is supposed to do, but it's still not good enough for the husband then no.

  12. hollywoodjames profile image60
    hollywoodjamesposted 13 years ago

    YES!!!  Cheaters will always be cheaters.  The reason they cheat in the first place is because they aren't satisfied with what they have in front of them and they are always looking to find something better.  There are NO excuses for cheating.  Cheaters cheat because they lack self-discipline and integrity.  If you don't like who your with, have the decency to end the relationship AND THEN move on.

  13. Wealthmadehealthy profile image60
    Wealthmadehealthyposted 13 years ago

    Having been married to a cheater and trying to work it out with him, I would say, once a cheater a cheater you will's called looking for grass that is greener on the other side of the fence in my mind....not pleasant to have one in your life....guess that's why that part of my life is over...Praise God!!

    And since this is the only reason that God gives in His Word for divorce, I would suggest to all who cheat and want to keep your partner, to work it out and stop.....or lose what you have forever!!!

    1. NewYorker profile image58
      NewYorkerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you, although I do believe there are exceptions. Like drunken mistakes and stuff like that.

      1. Wealthmadehealthy profile image60
        Wealthmadehealthyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        There is no reason to make a "drunken mistake" if you are a Christian....God forbids drunkeness in His Word.   In many places He states...." not be drunk ....."  This would include any type of alcoholic beverage...So I do not view this as an excuse...there is not an excuse in the world for breaking the Commandment    Thou shalt not commit adultery....EOS

        1. NewYorker profile image58
          NewYorkerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          And of course, you just had to be a bible thumper.


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