Confessing to cheating or being caught.

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   sd98posted 8 years ago

   Recently my husband got caught cheating. He didn't come home after work. The next morning I went to erase a not so nice message I left and heard this message from a young girl crying saying you wanted to be with me and said you would change your ways. Well I got a hold of him and told him to never come back. He tried to turn it around on me. I feel this girl is a fool, cause he wasn't going to leave me he wanted to have his cake and eat it too. I packed up all his stuff and now he is living with this young girl. I guess a part of me wants to know it won't work out between them. Why? Cause I want him to see you can't treat people like this. If there relationship was healthy she wouldn't be crying nor would he be lying.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      kharma is the word

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   shazwellynposted 8 years ago

   I can hear the pain in your post.  I know it feels difficult, but try and rise your feelings above the hatred - this just fuels fire to an already difficult situation.  This will make you a better person than he and even more so, to wish him well.
   
   You will be amazed at how well you will come out of this!

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   Ben Evansposted 8 years ago

   For people who cheat often it is a continuing thing.  They also don't care about other people.  I don't care what anyone else says but that is a severe abuse of trust and it is a horrible thing.  He is there only for the sex and she is there for some other reason but most likely it is stability.  She will get bored or come to her senses.  Their relationship will become ultra-trivial because he is there just for the sex.
   
   I would at this point take him to the cleaners and just make sure that he has hard life because from his actions he deserves it.

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   sd98posted 8 years ago

   Its not that I hate him. I hate the things he has done and continues to do. This was just the straw that broke the camels back. He started becoming very abusive. He was arrested and charged, to have this young girl bail him out of jail. I was suspious at that point, however she swore to a judge in court there was nothing going on nor would be. I know abuse is wrong. There were things he needed to do and appeared to be doing them. I didn't think anything was going on cause the awful things he said about this girl to the children and I. Yes we have three children. Sadly they to got hurt from all of this. I guess what upsets me most about his actions is the kids are paying the price. He has nothing to do with them either. He has moved on. To wish him well, maybe once my children get through this and I don't hear their crys anymore, but for right now all I wish is he rot in hell. Most days I just try not to think about it, but I am today cause tomorrow is or was our anniversary.

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