Boyfriend cheated with his baby mama and may have a 2yr old

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  1. profile image49
    confusedjsposted 7 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have been togetherefor over 5 yrs. now. We have a 4 year old son together. Getting into the relationship he knew i had a daughter, she is 7 and her father is deceased. I knew he had two daughters, 9 and 6 yrs old. the first couple of years into our relationship were not the best. We have been living together since 2006. In aug of 2008 he cheated on me with his daughters mother and he may have gotten her pregnant.She was living with her sons dad at the time so it may be his or my boyfriends. Me not knowing anything broke up with him in dec of 08 trying to teach him a lesson so that he could see what he had but it totally back fired on me. he moved in with her his baby mama while she was preganant. i still did not know. In march of 2009 i found out and lashed out at him and her. He moved out the day i found out and left her pregnant. We started talking again and we got back together. Well everything has been fine between me and him i still dont completely trust him but im trying and he has changed alot. March 14 2011 he went and got the dna test done and next week april 28 2011 is when we get the results..On the lil girls 2nd birthday...coinsidence maybe...well everythign i felt in the beginning of knowing that he may have fathered a baby from cheating on me is coming back....i dont know what to do....i dont know wether to be with him or not....this baby if it his is going ot be in my life forever and i dont think i can take it....please give me advise....i am emberrassed, ashamed,, i dont want my own children to know what he did...i know this is going to affect my children because they always say they want another brother or sister please help

  2. dingdondingdon profile image60
    dingdondingdonposted 7 years ago

    Wait, what?

    Let me try to make sense of this. Your boyfriend and you are together, and have a son. Your boyfriend also has a daughter with another woman, and said woman has a son with her own current boyfriend. He cheated on you with that woman and now she's pregnant and the child may be either his or her current boyfriend's?

    Wow, Maury would be all over this.

    Okay well, first of all there's no reason for YOU to be ashamed. Your boyfriend is an untrustworthy jerk, clearly, but that's not your fault. I'd say wait until you get the test results and try not to think about it until then. You may be worrying over nothing.

    1. profile image49
      confusedjsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      he has two daughters with his baby mama
      and she has a lil boy with the other guy that may be the dad
      he cheated on me with the mother of his two daughters
      she is no longer with her sons dad she is married to a man shes only known for 6 months. she was pregnant. the lil girl will be two next week the day we get the results.  smile yes i thought about maury never thought it would happen to me...

      I am waiting but i am so confused right now. in a week i will know if she is his and it hurts so much.

  3. Greek One profile image74
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

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  4. LeeWalls profile image61
    LeeWallsposted 7 years ago

    Why do you want to complicate your life more with someone that you've already broken up with twice? I hope that's what I understood. You don't have to be confused but take action.

    Don't let a person's actions affect you; children are involved, that's why people have to think before they start bed hopping.

    You don't have anything to do with his situation. That's HIS problem but you don't want someone like that where you may argue with him again and he runs off and fathers another child; think about your children.

    You can't let your house be a revolving door for boyfriends. As a mother you're telling your children that type of behavior is permitted and it really isn't. Cut the loss! You'll feel good about yourself, in the long run be a better person and your children will respect you.

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      confusedjsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thank you. my children are what worry me the most. i wish that they never have to go thru what i have been thru. they are what make me stronger and i thank god that  i always keep them in mind unlike him and his daughters mother. I want them to grow up with principles and morals and for them to repect themselves. its really hard because he has changed alot and he is there for all of us now. i pray that my children will one day understand why i make the decisions i do. im dreading next thrusday as it will change all of our lives forever.


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