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Have you ever thanked or greeted and taken care of your mother always?

  1. VENZKHVAM profile image60
    VENZKHVAMposted 5 years ago

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    A mother once deciding to bring the child out faces thousand of challenges and she even is ready face a dinosaur  to save her kids and make  them comfortable and happily leaving.But over a period of time many children s forget those sacrifices  and carry on as if ,"i dont know" & "dont care" ATTITUDE?  even when their mother is suffering .Please  touch your heart and say "Are you one of those  guys/gals for a moment in your life been like that in your life?

  2. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 5 years ago

    I have always looked out for my mother's best interests and continue to do so, and will until she is dead. I'm bound by my word to my father, which was his dying wish that I was to ensure that she was to never be alone, because it's the one thing she feared would happen.

    Many children grow up, leave home and then only return to clean up after their parents are gone. I find it disrespectful and ignorant to do something like that.

    Even as I live today, I ensure that my mother is taken care of as much as I physically can. I always make sure she has something to eat, that we spend time talking with each other and also ensure that she is able to live longer, by monitoring her medicines/medications. She isn't capable of remembering to take them on a schedule, even if written down.

  3. VENZKHVAM profile image60
    VENZKHVAMposted 5 years ago

    wonderful. BUt in any moment when you are undergoing some tension of your own did you missed that ?

    1. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I live with tension, it's part of living. More so now than ever before in my life, however, how I treat my mother will be no different. wink

      1. VENZKHVAM profile image60
        VENZKHVAMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        WELL that sounds lovely.I really wish you a wonderful life as you are taking care of the mother the mother nature will take care of you.Thanks for sharing the opinion and first to start the discussion.

        1. Cagsil profile image61
          Cagsilposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          You're welcome.

          Something my father told me when I was younger, aside of the many different things he told me, was that a woman will look at a man and how he treats his mother, to gauge how she will be treated.

          It is something that stuck with me. How true it is? Who knows. However, I've had several relationships, which the woman(knowing my father's last wish) has tried to rip apart my relationship with my mother, so as to get me to move out and leave my mother alone.

          Every relationship I enter into, each woman is told that it's not happening and I am not to be put into making a choice between them or my mother. Each has been told that they will lose.

  4. Hollie Thomas profile image61
    Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago

    Like you Cagsil, my father died, in 2007 to be exact. It was sudden and unexpected, he didn't get the chance to say look after your mum. But he would've done if he could. I spend as much time as I can with my mum, she's 81, sprightly and nobody's fool. My two teenagers are also really close to her. My brother on the other hand, didn't even come to my dad's funeral and left it twelve months before he went to see my mum. But, that's his loss, when she's gone he'll have to face that conscience of his.

    1. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      My father died in 1986. wink
      My father was dying in a hospital bed from Cancer.
      My mother is 64. smile

      1. Hollie Thomas profile image61
        Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        A lot of responsibility for a long time, But, you're strong enough:) At least you'll have no regrets in that department smile

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      Home Girlposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I wish my mom was alive - in any condition - old, weak, senile, blind, deaf, whatever. Just alive, so that I could talk to her, listen to her complaints, feed fer, take care of her. When I emigrated, that basically shortened my mom's life. I did nor realise at that time, until it was too late. She died suddenly from a heart attack when she was only 75 years old, lonely and half-blind. I miss her very much. And I know now, HOW she missed me!
      I feel responsible for my mom's death and will never forgive myself.

      1. Hollie Thomas profile image61
        Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Your mum may have missed you a great deal, but i doubt very much that led to her death. Grief has several phases, one of them is guilt. You see, even if you'd been there, you'd probably still feel the guilt at some point. Yours is just more focused, because you weren't there. I still feel guilty about my dads death.However, the rational side of me just says 'don't be ridiculous' you could not have prevented it. So, give yourself a break, death is something we have to accept, it's inevitable.

    3. VENZKHVAM profile image60
      VENZKHVAMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Holie Thomas ,
                               My father too died out of lung cancer in November 7.30pm. His only worry was to take care of my mom.I am trapped in some other other part of my country  and mom would never budge out of our ancestral house. I feel very bad for not being with her as she needs me.
      Out of compulsions and my financial liability in a huge business loss iam making it outside.Neither i can go there and neither she is coming here.

      I am on my triumph to  pay back all the debts i created and once and for go and settle there with mom till her life and so on.
      I really wanted to know how others are lucky enough or situation compelled enough to be with mom.
      @ Home girl--   you shouldn't be guilty as your love to her is seen  by her from heaven or where ever she is now.
      @holie thomas --- but saying is easy and when you go through the death one will feel the pinch.I am sure you will agree.

  5. asmaiftikhar profile image80
    asmaiftikharposted 5 years ago

    Now i m away from my ama(mother) but mis her in every second of life. wants to see her beautiful face  every morning to shine my days and nights.

    1. VENZKHVAM profile image60
      VENZKHVAMposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      so .lovely asma,
                                 may god bless upon you to full fill your wishes.

 
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