What is the worst thing your mother has EVER said to you?
I never wrote too much down - but this one might take the prize "You are waiting for my DEATH!!!" I am not. Did it hurt? It did. It still does. I know I am not alone (as a daughter) - there are millions of insensitive mothers out there. I want to know - .... why? I am a mother myself... Am I the same?
I believe mine didn't mean it when she said it, but on a few occasions she told me 'no boy is ever going to want you'.
My mother and father were seperated when I was 18 months old. She never took the time to get to know or keep in touch with me or any of my 5 sisters she was too busy. When I was 17 I moved in with my aunt ( my mom's sister). My Aunt thought it was of some great importance for me to meet my mother- I guess she thought my mother would care or maybe have regrets for concieving children and not caring for them..not so. Any way my mother was getting Re-married and asked my aunt to bring me to the wedding. While there I asked if we could have a picture taken together.. one picture since I had none my mother replied " I have my own life know" and are you coming to the reception? At that moment I lost all respect for my mother. Some people should not be allowed to concieve..If all they are looking for is sex they should use birth control.
The worse thing my mom ever said to me was: "You are too big for your shoes." But the awful feeling these words aroused in me - that feeling (can't find the word) when being discredited and disapproved - was a thousand times more intense when she ignored me. Her vibes were stronger and sharper than her words. She was/is a quiet woman and will never utter her negative or opposed thoughts, but I could always feel her thoughts/vibes. The fact that she had never given me, and still not, the chance to explain my point of view, or to give her the reasons of my actions, filled me with powerless anger. She had made up her mind: I am not like her, she cannot agree with my views or admire my actions and activities. And that's that. She is a humble Christian who doesn't question any authority, while I am a rebel who need to know the sense in/of everything since I was able to say 'why?' But I know she loves me because I am her daughter and when I need her support she will give it immediately without asking any questions. (And of course I am too proud and headstrong to ask her to support me in any way. Only when some illness get the better of me, I will call her.... and she will come without delay to take care of me.)
I should have had an abortion.
or maybe it was..........
you ruined my life and tied me down................
maybe she should have, and maybe I did, but I was never asked or given a choice............she blamed me for the choices that she made.
My Grandparents, were a salvation to my young life.
my mother once told me not to eat anything until she came home... then she never came home and I never saw her again.
I am so blessed to have a wonderful, gracious mother. However, once I had this orange T-shirt dress thing that I loved and thought I looked really good in (was much thinner at the time). I felt CONFIDENT in that dress, ya know? She walked in, looked at me and said, "That is definitely not your color. Never wear that color again." Ouch. LOL
I was not raised by my real mother, though when she was on death's door, she made her amends.
The woman responsible for raising me for 6 years of my life coldly obliged our relationship now as just friends that is all she had emotion or time for. Mind you she has two other daughters I was raised with and only acknowledges the two biological daughters.
I was told I would never feel like a foster child, or unwanted and that is ultimately what I am to her. I never knew the word "friends" could hurt so.
There have been so many hurtful things coming from my mother's mouth I wrote a hub about it.
http://crazygata.hubpages.com/hub/I-hat … fe-is-good
Now, to all of those that have had gracious mothers, please give us mother-impaired humans a break and post elsewhere.
I even submitted a poem for that other kind of mother, I find it so hard to get her the right postcard.
If anything, more than answering the question, I wish to share that the way that I deal with her is the following: a person is what a person does... If a mother does not do the mother things, it is not one, act accordingly.
I wish for all of us a flexible strength... not one that comes from heartache or resentments, but from true inner growth... If anyone had seen "First Wives Club" maybe you could relate to what I mean when I say "Grow from Love..."
I have had a wonderful mother who adopted me as a baby, and she is now almost 92. Although she did have her moments with me when I was an out of control teenager, I don't recall any one particularly hurtful thing she ever said that left an ache in my heart. But something does hurt me. I work at a large high school, and last summer, a young girl committed suicide after she told her mother that she was gay, and her mother told her she wished that her daughter was dead rather than have her be gay. That always hurts my heart when I remember it, and how much pain that teenager had to be in.
She once said "If I was intelligent enough I would have a husband by now". Even though, I don't think I have made any wrong choices in my life since I am in my mid twenties and pursuing my PhD. I guess for some people getting married is everything. I just choose to think she hails from an ignorant upbringing otherwise she is surprisingly a loving person.
What a question to ponder....I giggle with the thought now (not then). Upon entering my home Mom would ask if I meant to hang that there, or meant to paint my room that color....Certainly irritated me then! I lost my Mom last year, she was way to young...I wish she could ask me if I meant to hang that there.
Wow - tear jerker stories. I'm not a Mom but a found a greeting card for y'all
There are mothers who are loving, encouraging,& positive towards their children. They will NEVER think of saying & doing anything damaging to their children. Then there are MOTHERS who do THE OPPOSITE. read more
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