difference between a ten year relationship and a ten year marriage

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    goldengirl88posted 6 years ago

    Ok so tell me what is the difference between a ten year relationship and a ten year marriage, i personally dont see the difference. However, lets say someone cheats on you and you have been with the perosn for ten years. Most people will say leave, dont put up with that! However, lets say someone has been married for ten years and one of them cheats insted of saying leave, everyone say oh try and save your marriage, go see a councellor, dont just walk away, work on your marriage. It like regardless of what a person does like if they abuse you, cheat on you, lie etc if your married people will be like fight for you marriage, but if your not there like move on.
    So why do we put so much emphasise on a piece of paper, when both couples have been together same amount of time the only diffrence is one has made it legal.

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Marriage is much more than just a piece of paper, it's a legal contract.  Divorce is expensive.  There are legal fees, distribution of property, child custody, and many other things to consider.  However, I can't imagine being in a ten year relationship without similar concerns, especially if you've purchased a home together and have children.  Many states have common law marriage where if two people have lived together for a certain number of years, it is recognized as a common law marriage.  You don't just walk away from a ten years of your life with someone, married or not, without first trying to work out your problems.  By the time anybody "walks away" from any marriage or relationship, it's usually pretty much over anyway.

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    goldengirl88posted 6 years ago

    yeah agreed, it just seems that people place a greater emphasise of working things out and reconciling when your married, over a defacto relationship.

    1. Disturbia profile image60
      Disturbiaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      LOL, yes, that might be true, as I said divorce is expensive.

  3. mathira profile image85
    mathiraposted 6 years ago

    The main difference is, however long you might stay together you don't get any recognition.On the other hand if you are married you feel a sense of belonging and want to adjust with your spouse.There is support for you from your family if you are married.Relationship without marriage is like  a ship without anchor.

    Your spouse has a sense of responsibility towards you and does not want to leave you.There is adjustment and making up is easy whereas a relationship is brittle and without future.

    Your children feel secure in marriage and children feel insecure in a relationship and develop lots of complex characteristics.


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