People often ask the question: Should I follow my heart or my mind? Well aren't they one in the same? Or does one lead the other in making some decisions? If one leads the other, is it our heart that leads, or is it our mind? Some will say it depends on the situation--and this may be very true indeed. But, how do we truly know when it's our heart or when it's our mind that helped us make a decision?
IMO heart is emotion, mind is intellect. Does it matter which led in a decision? We have this as a system of checks and balances, so to speak. We are out of balance if we are totally emotional or totally without emotion (all intellect). Weigh the decision carefully if you are referring to your decision about the inlaw. Better to err on the side of caution.
To me, the heart is your feelings and emotions; and your mind is your logic and reasoning, apart from emotions.
As some others here have said, I think it's a little bit of both. Balance. Allow yourself to feel. But don't let it make you do something irrational. My opinion is that people should take their time if they are making a decision about relationships. Emotions are wonderful things, but give them too much rein and they can destroy you. Let logic and so called "rationality" take over and you may never let yourself be happy.
It's sometimes really hard to balance those out in a relationship situation, but I've learned it's good to give both of them time to speak.
Just my two cents
I know I am seeing this question very late. But coincidentally I had written a hub on this same theme about 4 years ago. I have shared my thoughts there and I hope you find it interesting.
In short, the heart is the seat of consciousness which should be heeded to over the mind which is the seat of intelligence. Heart is selfless while the mind is not.
http://hubpages.com/religion-philosophy … tween-them
I always follow my heart first on important matters. Shortly followed by the mind to confirm and structure. Your heart is source of love, kindness and good intentions needed in this world most. When ever you come across a serious problem, look to the mind where the source of the problem is.
Couturepopcafe, hello!! Yes, I totally agree with your perspective. Sometimes it does matter what leads in the decision making process though, at least in my opinion. If we act on our heart alone tells us, all retionalization is thrown out of the decision making process. In all actuality it may be probable to believe our heart and mind really are one in the same, right? Also, please forgive me but I am a little lost with regards to the last part of your reply...what are you referring to when you wrote "Weigh the decision carefully if you are referring to your decision about the inlaw."? Thanks!! :-)
Sorry. I thought you were the one who asked about a cheating son or daughter and should you tell their spouse.
I see where you're coming from on the heart mind thing, though. Yes, it's possible.
We almost always follow our heart, then use our mind to justify decisions...
This balancing act is easy when our heart and mind takes us in the same direction, but sometimes the heart takes us directions that our mind knows not to go!
Yeah, it's true, there's always a weighing process between our mind and our heart. It is understood however, that our mind is on top of our heart. And we have to analyzed our own perceptions, if what is mandated by our mind which comes from the dictations of our heart.
Always use your emotions in combination with your intellect(mind). If you do either one out of balance, then you're most likely going to harm someone without seeing the consequences of your actions in advance.
Blessings miss butterfly, I am a firm believer that when we control our emotions, our decision making is easy and rarely conflicted. Emotions change a lot, they are unstable and can sometimes take our mind to a place of depression and anger or lies even when it may not be proven. What I Know on the on other hand is real and cannot change, because it is fact. Balancing heart and mind is a matter of how we react to our emotions and what we know about any situation. Thanks for the question. 1
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