does romantic movies enhance or rise high expectations in relationship

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   moiponetsokaposted 13 years ago

   what your take on romantic movies do they make relationships strong with the message sent across to viewers or do they make people to have high expectations of how relationships should be.,

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   Arlene V. Pomaposted 13 years ago

   Romantic movies feed into the idea of how relationships should be.  Like any movie, you should view them as entertainment.  People who have experienced heartache, break-ups and divorces can tell you that relationships aren't always a picnic.  But those romantic movies stir up some hope.  Or they can be real stupid.  I'll be 54, and I would not pay to see 20, 30 or 40-somethings onscreen, hoping to finding "The One."  Y-A-W-N.  It' not my idea of entertainment!

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   Disturbiaposted 13 years ago

   I think it goes both ways. Romantic movies do give false expectations and hopes, but they can also teach us something about relationships, provided the characters and story aren't too far removed from reality. One has to be mature enough to understand that it's just a story and reality doesn't always turn out the way you want it to. Sometimes an ugly frog is just a ugly frog and will never turn into a handsom prince no matter how many times you kiss him.

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      couturepopcafeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with this perspective. Romantic movies can show us something to which we can aspire. They can show us the 'good guy or girl', the something to hold out for, and how to handle a relationship issue. But as you said, it's up to the individual to no the difference between reality and fantasy.

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   They shouldn't be allowed to have any impact on the strength of the relationship; and nobody should aim to recreate what they've seen in a movie, in the hopes of having a more "ideal" relationship.
   
   Having said that, however, I don't think it's such a bad thing for people to see some of the more ideal things they can see in movies.  Art imitates life, and there's a lot of beautiful and ideal things in life that are imitated in movies.  Too many people think that the nicer things in movies or on television are "unrealistic".  They're not.  Again, art imitates life.
   
   What's not good is trying to make your life imitate art.  You should aim for a life that good "before the movie is ever out", and only later see it reflected back in a movie or one sort or another.  What's also not good is expecting movie perfection at all times, in all ways, and for the rest of one's life.  Movies only last an an hour and a half (or whatever).  The things in life that the movie-art imitates may be very realistic, but they reflect only a small part of life.
   
   Maybe it's more that movies can be somewhat reasonable examples of how nice things can/should be.  They don't make good examples of how perfect anything can/will ever be for too long. 
   
   You know that saying, "If you build it they will come?"  Well, when it comes to having movie moments in life; I think it's a matter of, "If you live with the right kind of expectations and standards in life, the movie moments will come."
   
   What makes relationships strong is having two people in them who love and respect the other.  When people have that there will be those "movie moments".  When they don't - they'll just be soap-opera drama.

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