How would you deal with this situation if you - a Christian- were in such a predicament?
Someone you love dearly-spouse,child,sibling- lives in your household.The person has an issue with the community,This person had a disagreement with another person and says that anyone who assists the person is an enemy.The person is angry because answers to questions are not available.This person calls down maledictions on the people in the locale and vows to enlist the aid of any force willing to help. Expletives using God and mother as adjectives are profuse.This person wants the area to be desolate and disappear like Port Royal.How would you respond especially since nobody is to be spared?
Obviously I will try my level best to find the cause of his anger and then will try to reason it out with him. I will support him all through but at the same time I am not going to tolerate his idiosyncrasies.
Given the information in your question, here's how we see it. We would, tell him/her that he is loved first and foremost by us. (And it sounds like he is not ready or willing to be reasonable). We would tell him That he may stay in our house on our terms. No cussing, no evil words to family. (this applies to those able to leave). That while he has these evil and hateful feelings toward other people, he cannot stop how we feel about them. If we assist those he hates, we still love him though he may say he hates us as an enemy. We will continue to forgive him and we will pray, pray, pray daily. Key here is for him to see us living a Godly life, to see love when he sees hate.
The best thing for a Christian to do is to love this person. Lavish the love of God on him or her. Whenever he or she shows evil, respond with the opposite.
God will do the work in him or her!
I would be willing to tell that person that because they are family I love them mightily. I might tell them that God loves them too. But you live in my household, you will not curse, you will not insult, you will not harm. Three hard and fast rules.
If they are the head of the household, I would leave. I may not have anywhere else to go, but I could not tolerate the threats, the language, the stress and the anger. I will not tiptoe through life in fear.
If I were a minor child and I could not leave on my own, I would speak to a minister, priest, or school counselor and get the heck out of the situation.
Love, unfortunately, does NOT conquer all. And God helps those that help themselves.
Sometimes the best thing to do is doing nothing, just walking away is quieter, less painful than staying with the abuse.
I think the Bible makes it clear in the book of Mathew on what to do on such an occasion.
Here is a quote:
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
Matthew 18:15-17 ESV
This is the step suggested by the Bible - Speak to him, reason with him, if he is reasonable, then you have won the battle but if he refuses to be reasonable, then seek counsel, bring in two or three witnesses to speak to him; if he refuses yet again, then tell it to the church: cry out for help. And if he refuses to listen to the church, then let him be.....
but I will just add, continue to pray for him, love him still but do not stop been good to both he has declared as enemies and to himself.
I hope these helps.
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