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Is it important to love yourself above any other? I don't mean in a selfish way

  1. keepitnatural profile image72
    keepitnaturalposted 6 years ago

    Is it important to love yourself above any other? I don't mean in a selfish way but surely before...

    you can share love, or teach it to another you must first achieve this..?

  2. Monisajda profile image74
    Monisajdaposted 6 years ago

    I think you should love yourself, I am still struggling with accepting myself for who I am. In my opinion, to love yourself means being comfortable in your own body, with your beliefs and life. I can honestly say that I didn't love myself when I was growing up and had terrible problems with my self-esteem and self-confidence. I believe it really matters how your parents programmed you when you were a child.

  3. darrylcrawford profile image69
    darrylcrawfordposted 6 years ago


    I believe we should love God above everyone because God loved us first. God is Love and only God can truly teach us how to love.

    After that we can apply that to others and ourselves. Everyone needs love, even the ones that say they don't, deep down they do.

    I believe it should be GOD first.

    My opinion (for me) without that formula, we can tend to focus too much on ourselves and less on others and really much less on God who created us.

  4. Jangaplanet profile image78
    Jangaplanetposted 6 years ago

    I believe one should love themself first but not in a narsistic manner but rather in a kind gentle way and always remain humble and thankful. I believe if you love yourself first you can be gentle and more available to others. If you dont like yourself you can be fustrated and mean towards others. Its a hard concept to understand and hard to adapt to but love begins inside of each person first . Most will seek love from another person  to fill that gap but that will  eventuatly fail. Love yourself first then share that love with others.This is my personal opinion , i might be wrong.

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    Of course you gotta love yourself, If you don't how can you ever claim to or truly come to love someone else!

    Btw you CaN'T teach anybody to Love..... they must desire what Love has to offer on their own

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    It is a hard balance.  We need to accept ourselves, accept who we are, but still strive to improve because no one is perfect.  I think it is important to first know who you are,know what you think feel, how you respond to people in need, your family. 

    Then accept yourself, say this is who I am, I am not perfect, but I am trying to improve.  Look in the mirror and be happy with what you see---and my friend, I know this is not easy and not something that can be done on demand.  It is an aging process where we learn that we like who we are.

    So the answer is that it is important to LEARN to love yourself and that is an ongoing process.  I don't believe you have to have the process complete to share love or teach others.  It is something I have learned over 40 years of marriage--that I am okay.  That is not something I believed when I married at 19.

  7. sir_tallest profile image63
    sir_tallestposted 6 years ago

    yes....i guess to love youself is very important

  8. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    Yes. If I do not love myself then how can I spread my love for others?

    I find that it is important to understand and love yourself before you know how to love others.

  9. calebacea097 profile image60
    calebacea097posted 6 years ago

    well love is selfish at times when you love someone you only want them when you love yourself you only wants whats good for you. so you have to find a healthy balance between the two

  10. heavenbound5511 profile image77
    heavenbound5511posted 6 years ago

    You must first be loved and then you can love. God loved us first and then wanted our love in return. God is the source of love, our first love.

    Loving yourself isn't selfish as long as you love your neighbor (everyone else) as you do yourself.

  11. Ashantina profile image61
    Ashantinaposted 6 years ago

    Loving Self is a journey... when you reach 'it' the lens changes.. of course you share it through interactions and relationships and giving and receiving.. teach it? only through example.

  12. Alosea profile image54
    Aloseaposted 6 years ago

    It's absolutely important to love yourself before others.  Without love for yourself, what are you offering other people?  You have to have a foundation.