What advice would you give people to help them improve the relationship they have with their self?
I love your questions Mr. Davenmidtown! Honestly, I think the question itself here is more important than any answer I can give ...
I say this because I think we all have our own personal trails to follow (this wolf loves trails!). Thus, what I may suggest here in terms of how one can improve their relationship with themselves, may be good for some people but it may not be good for others ...
It is important in my opinion, to be true to yourself (honest), to know who You are and to never give up. Accepting constructive criticism, or even asking for it (perhaps from friends or family members - anyone who is considered as trustworthy) may also help ... perhaps.
Great question - the asking of the question is what is really important if You ask me ... All the best Sir! : )
Hello and nice to meet you Davemidtown Thanks so much for the welcome to Hubpages and for your question...
Ahhh improving the relationship with yourself, I have a brutal yet gentle approach to this.
I would start off by saying that to improve the relationship you have with yourself, you need to have a willingness to be brutal enough to look in the mirror, and yet gentle enough with yourself by being OK with what you will find.
This is the crux of what I blog and speak about. Having a willingness to become more aware of yourself ( your body, your emotions, your beliefs, and your fears,) is where I like to start....
For me to be able to improve the relationship with myself I have to know myself inside and out. To be able to do that and continue to create the person I want to be I MUST do a personal inventory including not only where I need improvement (to controlling sometimes, ok a lot of times, patience and focus) but my assets, (creative, expressive, outgoing).
Any relationship whether it's with yourself or another is all about knowing who that person is inside and where they want to be.
There's a plaque on my bathroom wall that says Life is not about finding yourself it's about creating yourself. Words I TRY to live by.
We must look past physical beauty or lack thereof...and when we consistently treat others with decency, then we have gone a long, long way toward building a strong, dynamic, loving relatonship with ourselves.
I would tell them to take a long and as objective as possible look at the way they treat people in general. The way you treat others is the way you want to be treated, consciously or not. Otherwise, spending more time alone does wonders.
I always remember the words being taught by my school teacher.
Love yourself as others can love you. I do believe that I have to learn how to love myself in order for others to accept the same in return. If I am not happy with myself then how can I expect others to do so.
Once I learn how to accept myself in all goodness then I will be able to give the same to others. I apply this and that is why I love my family and giving them the best that I can.
Each day every morning I will smile to myself and give smile to my wife. In return, she smiles and makes my day!
At the end of the day, it is between, you AND y ou..........
nothing more, and nothing less.
I am not waking up beside you..........nor am I laying down beside you at the end of the day..................
You..............are your best friend, or your worst adversary............YOU get to choose.
Forget about your 'cons' and focus on your 'pros'. Treat yourself as you would like to be treated; you are a person too! Don't be afraid to love yourself and be proud of what you do.
Understand yourself and your priorities in life. Do what you love . Know your limits. Pamper yourself well. Always have two income streams. Be courageous. Give back to poor what you earn. Be debt free. Love your wife and close family members. Build a community of trusted friends. You will be in total sync with your self if you do all these.
Simply: Don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes anf live life.
As Neil Gaiman said in his new year greeting:
I hope in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing youself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're Doing Something.
So that's my wish for you, and for all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody's ever made before. Don't freeze, don't stop, don't worry that it isn't good enough, or it isn't perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you're scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.
Accepting others is not that difficult as accepting oneself with all the negative traits. This is because there are lot of things which we know about ourselves which others do not know. It is best to built a tolerance for oneself and accept one self as one is. Otherwise this will lead to constant debates and arguments with the sub conscience which may lead to psychological problems like split personalities.
Good question and one I think everyone has at one point in their lives. We tend to focus on the bad and flaws we have instead of looking for the good. We do this with others as well. Try to apply looking for the good in all aspects of your life, make it a habit. Try to find a possible blessing in what you might view as a curse. If you get accustomed to looking for positive you will be more positive about everything including yourself:)
I will suggest that love to yourself and love the work you do. I think to live happy its too important that, you love yourself and be innovative all time. Think positive and try hard to get your target.
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