How hard or ease is it for you to forgive someone who has done you wrong?
I am not perfect by any sense of the word,but for me forgiving others comes ease. And I don't stay angry very long. I would hope that others would find it ease to forgive me if I had wronged them.
Having grown up differently able I learned that kids are mean. So I forgive because that was how I was brought up.
But when adults say I'm not welcomed because I'm an embarrassment to them I have a hard time forgiving. I try to forgive but it's not easy.
I didn't ask for a disability.
The hardest thing was when my boyfriend married a total stranger rather than me because I had a disability. That was tough. I got over it.
Lor's stories- It is sad when adults act like mean children. It just shows self pride and vanity on their part. But I am glad to hear that you found it in your heart to forgive those who wronged you. Many blessing to you and thank you for your answer
Yes Lor's. And being forgiving brings us peace
I can't stay angry for very long at all. I believe the ability to easily forgive comes from God. I don't think it happens inside ourselves without Him. However, it can become convoluted at times and cause us to put ourselves in unsafe situations. Example, I kept going back to my abusive alcoholic husband because I always forgave him. One day the minister of my church explained to me that I did need to forgive him but I did NOT need to continue returning to a bad home life. It finally clicked. I moved on and married a wonderful man who was worthy of my God-given forgiving nature.
Now, it's easy. But I got here through a lot of hard work. My birth family was full of anger, and the idea of forgiveness was unheard of. But 30 years of spiritual practice has changed me. And I find real value in books like Gary Chapman's The Five Languages of Apology. I've written a hub about using that book to improve our marriages.
Forgiving is pretty easy, but fully trusting is another matter. I can forgive and I can love you just as much as I did before, but I might not ever fully trust that it won't happen again. Trust is a fragile thing. Once it's broken, it's hard to fix. Forgiveness is another matter. Forgiveness is acknowledging that the other person has wronged you and making the choice not to keep it on their account. Once you have forgiven then it won't be thrown in their faces any more but only God forgives AND forgets. The rest of us remember and are a little more careful the next time.
Its hard to forgive someone because we are just human. By nature, we are born vengeful. If something wrong had been done to us, we tend to seek of ways on how to inflict the same damage to the other person who done us wrong. But, this is not what our God tells us to do. He clearly commands us that we should forgive others just as He had been forgiving. Though it might really be hard, you really have to let go of the anger and vengeful spirit in your heart and just forgive.
It is hard to forgive someone when the person wronged me gravely. But forgiving the other person makes my heart lighter and in the end, it becomes a huge gift to my own self :-)
I have a brother and a sister that still boycott a local business. Turns out they do not know why. While we were in our teens mom got mad at the business owners. So some of my family are still made at that family. We are in our 50's and 60's. So the anger goes back have a century. That is weird!!
So after 30+ years of work, I can say honestly that I can forgive nearly immediately with out so much as effort. Sometimes the hard part is that people around me want me to be angry and think there is something inappropriate about not retaining anger for your loved ones who are trying to stay mad.Thank fully for me I have my religion to hide behind and so forgiving is somewhat excused.
Well Eric, this is one for the books. It would be hard to forgive if you don't know what to forgive them for. Maybe it best forgotten instead of forgiven. In any case it sound like you have forgiven and that is good. Great to see your answers. Peace.
Of late , forgiving people is very easy , especially after having a better concept of ONE . Peace , Love and Light to all that is and all that is , is ONE ! Have an absolutely lovely day my brothers and sisters , Namaste !!
I'm pretty good at forgiving.. I forgive best by forgetting what happened. I'm a very patient person as well so it takes a lot for me to feel wronged
by jay2jay 8 years ago
How much are you willing to forgive those who trespass against you?
by Leslie A. Shields 9 years ago
We know that we will be better off if we forgive all of those things and and all of those people that have caused us pain....In this thread, ask for or give forgiveness. You don't have to give specific in details if you don't want to.I ask that Christians who have hurt people be forgiven.
by JP Carlos 6 years ago
Where do you draw strength to forgive someone who did something wrong to you?
by Anan Celeste 7 years ago
Do you know how to forgive? Can you forget?It's rather easy to say I forgive you,but is it always so?
by ezba29 3 years ago
Can you forgive someone who did worst for you?Whether we can have heart to forgive someone who did bad for us even we can't imagine how bad it was? If you forgive can you forget those worst moments?
by preston7153 7 years ago
This is a question for Christians. Should you forgive someone, if they do not ask for forgiveness?A fellow believer and I discussed this and could not seem to get a clear answer. The Bible talks of forgiving those who ask for our forgiveness, right???? I understand we should not...
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