Is sparing one feelings a good reason to lie to someone or do you tell them the truth regardless?
I believe this is a question we have all faced at some point time. It is most likely the most common kind of lie people tell (to spare one's feelings). And for many people this kind of lying is directed towards those we love the most. Is sparing someone's feeling a good reason? Or do you tell people the truth regardless.
My only issue with people telling the "truth" is it is typically an opinion. Too many people claim they "speak the truth in love" and all they really do is point fingers and tell others how to live their lives. With that said, I think people need to hear the actual truth. If it is said in a polite and actually loving way, the truth can help people become better. People can hear the truth in a way that will still save their feelings but also help them become closer to the best person they need to be.
That is a real problem today. Few want to hear the truth, and not many people are willing to speak the truth if they think it will be taken as an attack because this is the most common result these days.
True love is saying and/or doing what is correct (true) whether it is welcome or not
So,no it is wrong to not speak the truth no matter the reason.
I go ahead and tell the truth no matter how much it may hurt. I have found that when someone lied to me to spare my feelings, I always ended up finding out the truth of the matter eventually and was even more hurt and upset about it. I wouldn't want to make anyone to suffer from those same feelings so I go ahead and say what ever it is that needs to be said and deal with the consiquences.
Telling a person a lie to spare their feelings will only hurt them in the long run. Its better to tell the truth even if it hurts them for a while and spare them the pain of living with a lie.
Speak the truth speak it ever, cost it what it will. I believe speaking the truth regardless of the repercussion. But no matter how honest we are we all have been in a situation whereby we do not want to hurt another feelings. I know I have.
A friend with a bad breath or smelly arm. We all have had that encounter but did we told that person that their mouth or arm needs help. Instead, we bore the unfriendly odour and continue to allow that person to go around offending others and embarrassing themselves.
Being truthful helps all of us, even if it hurts.
This is one of the toughest questions (yours and in real life) I ever have to answer. I pride myself on being absolutely honest, so I would likely find a kind way to express an unpleasant truth (or opinion). But no doubt, this one is a toughie.
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