Is sparing one feelings a good reason to lie to someone or do you tell them the truth regardless?
I believe this is a question we have all faced at some point time. It is most likely the most common kind of lie people tell (to spare one's feelings). And for many people this kind of lying is directed towards those we love the most. Is sparing someone's feeling a good reason? Or do you tell people the truth regardless.
My only issue with people telling the "truth" is it is typically an opinion. Too many people claim they "speak the truth in love" and all they really do is point fingers and tell others how to live their lives. With that said, I think people need to hear the actual truth. If it is said in a polite and actually loving way, the truth can help people become better. People can hear the truth in a way that will still save their feelings but also help them become closer to the best person they need to be.
That is a real problem today. Few want to hear the truth, and not many people are willing to speak the truth if they think it will be taken as an attack because this is the most common result these days.
True love is saying and/or doing what is correct (true) whether it is welcome or not
So,no it is wrong to not speak the truth no matter the reason.
I go ahead and tell the truth no matter how much it may hurt. I have found that when someone lied to me to spare my feelings, I always ended up finding out the truth of the matter eventually and was even more hurt and upset about it. I wouldn't want to make anyone to suffer from those same feelings so I go ahead and say what ever it is that needs to be said and deal with the consiquences.
Telling a person a lie to spare their feelings will only hurt them in the long run. Its better to tell the truth even if it hurts them for a while and spare them the pain of living with a lie.
Speak the truth speak it ever, cost it what it will. I believe speaking the truth regardless of the repercussion. But no matter how honest we are we all have been in a situation whereby we do not want to hurt another feelings. I know I have.
A friend with a bad breath or smelly arm. We all have had that encounter but did we told that person that their mouth or arm needs help. Instead, we bore the unfriendly odour and continue to allow that person to go around offending others and embarrassing themselves.
Being truthful helps all of us, even if it hurts.
This is one of the toughest questions (yours and in real life) I ever have to answer. I pride myself on being absolutely honest, so I would likely find a kind way to express an unpleasant truth (or opinion). But no doubt, this one is a toughie.
by Joan Whetzel 7 years ago
What would be a good reason to lie?What would be a bad reason to lie?
by gteri 9 years ago
i am a mother who had her son taken away and the controlling father got custody. where's this world coming too? mothers don't get chances anymore?
by Petra Vlah 9 years ago
Have you ever had a hub unpublished for no good reason? It just happened to me and I am...outragedMy hub "I will no longer prostitut myself" was dealing with the futility of participating in the voting process that gives us no viable options. Is that enough reason to be unpublished?
by Anaya M. Baker 9 years ago
What do you do when you're awake until the wee hours for no good reason?I've been noticing I've been spending more than a few late nights creating hubs, reading hubs, and just generally dawdling around hubpages. Wondering if there's others out there, or what you guys do when you find yourself up...
by Stella Faleskes 8 years ago
I wonder , why do some people lie with no reason?!I mean why cant they just simply say everything the way it is? Is it a kind of bad habbit or....they just simply dont trust the person that they are having conversation with ?I have this problem with my cousin. He lie's me all the time. For no...
by Sarah C Nason 3 years ago
Why are people hateful for no reason?I've noticed now on Hubpages, instead of just straight up answering a question, people will attack other people in their answer. For example, they start criticizing religious people when the question has nothing to do with religion. It's like their answer is...
Copyright © 2020 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
HubPages Inc, a part of Maven Inc.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|