who taught you how to hate?

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    sandra rinckposted 9 years ago

    That is the question.  That is it, nothing more nothing less.  Who taught you how to hate?

    1. mohitmisra profile image59
      mohitmisraposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      My foolish ego and lack of God knowledge smile

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        sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        lol- loved it!!! smile

    2. BDazzler profile image81
      BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not convince I was taught to hate.   I think hate is the result of love ..

      http://hubpages.com/hub/Perfect-Hatred

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        sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        I figured sorrow was loves counterpart.  smile

        1. aka-dj profile image77
          aka-djposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          I thought sorrow was joy's counterpart. hmm

          1. BDazzler profile image81
            BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

            That makes more sense to me.  But joy and love are related ... ('course everything's related)

        2. BDazzler profile image81
          BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          Love and sorrow definitely go together in many cases, but I don't know that one always necessitates the other...

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            sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

            well I dunno, let's see here...

            When you have love and then don't have love, it doesn't feel like hate unless it was never love to begin with....

            ???

            Sorrow seems what you (at least I) feel when something bad happens, which is sort of like empathy, I don't see it as hate.

            ???

            Maybe we should look at the root of Love. 

            Sorrow- biblically, sorrow was what God felt to give up his son.  Sorrow is what Jesus felt when murdered by the ones he loved.

            So it would seem that sorrow was the root of Love.

            Let's look into it some more.  wink

            ....

            aka-dj

            I would have thought being bored to be the opposite of joy.  ??? I dunno.  smile

            1. BDazzler profile image81
              BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

              OK let's say that I love A ...
              Then B hurts A to the point where I lose A
              I might hate B and have sorrow about my loss of A

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                sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

                Translation for debates sake ( please no one take this offensively smile)

                I love Jesus,
                then God hurt Jesus to the point where I lost Jesus
                I might hate God and have sorrow about my loss of Jesus.

                ???

                I love God
                then Jesus hurt God to the point where I lose God
                I might hate Jesus and have sorrow about my loss of God.


                Let's keep trying.  This analogy doesn't make so much sense at the moment.  wink

                1. BDazzler profile image81
                  BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

                  One of the places I don't agree  with you is that Jesus and God are different entities. I say this not from a point of doctrine but from personal revelation.  So, if God allowed Jesus to be hurt, it was voluntary on both of their parts because they share one mind and one purpose.

                  My personal revelation on the trinity and the oneness of God, does not conflict with scripture, but the details don't match anybody elses, and the words I might use to explain it, I think people might not understand.

                  So, let's move it out of that part and say ...
                  I love my grandmother.
                  cancer hurts and kills my grandmother
                  I have sorrow at the loss of my grandmother
                  I hate cancer

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                    sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

                    I also agree that God and Jesus aren't different entities, hand down I am with you on that.  ( of course I would have to ask what your personal definition of entity is smile

                    so then hate is to have never loved, not the opposite of love.  But you loved your Grandmother and because you loved her, when you lost her it was sorrow. 

                    If we moved it back in;

                    God allowed Jesus to be hurt and Jesus agreed to be hurt but they were both rooted in love for one another and hate was not part of either of them.



                    smile

  2. Misha profile image72
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    Parents. Siblings. School. Street.

    I think hate is always fear... smile

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      sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      sounds familiar. lol
      smile

  3. Misha profile image72
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    In your case probably church, too. In my case - corresponding communist party institution smile

  4. Jeromeo profile image61
    Jeromeoposted 9 years ago

    Disappointment, envy, greed, selfishness, and oh yea, what the other guy said.

  5. dingdong profile image61
    dingdongposted 9 years ago

    I think abandoned kids learn it faster smile

  6. livelonger profile image93
    livelongerposted 9 years ago

    Almost always via the parents or authority figures. Hateful parents usually breed hateful children. However, thankfully, there are lots of decent children who reject their parents' instilled hatred.

  7. aka-dj profile image77
    aka-djposted 9 years ago

    Sometime it helps me understand these types of "opposites" by imagining them a line. Love, in it's highest form on one end, and hate, at it's worst at the other. So, in life other people fall somewhere along that line. Hopefully close to the love end. smile

    1. BDazzler profile image81
      BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Ecclesiastes 3 ... I think this means that all emotions are appropriate at the right time.  To suppress or deny "negative" emotions such as hate, anger, sorrow actually diminish the times for "positive" emotions.

  8. aka-dj profile image77
    aka-djposted 9 years ago

    Bored is the opposite to being active/busy, either mentally, or physically. I usually get bored when I have nothing to do.

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      sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Really?  Because I get bored when I have plenty to do, physically and mentally. 

      What brings you joy?

      smile

  9. aka-dj profile image77
    aka-djposted 9 years ago

    If B hurts A, that has little to do with me. I don't have to hate either one. I can love both.
    I have two children. One hurt me (and my wife) grieviusly, and caused the other to "hate" her sister for what she did to us. We loved them both the same( and still do). Our encouragment to (B) was, don't hate (A). In time, we are all ok again. It was love that conquered in the end.
    Grieved, yes we were very grieved, but "hate" never entered the equation for us.

    1. BDazzler profile image81
      BDazzlerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Did you read my "Perfect Hatred" hub?  That's the context I'm working from.

      B always hurts A because:
      B is Jealous - so you hate Jealousy - and wipe out jealousy by providing security.
      Or
      B does not understand - so you hate ignorance and wipe it out with education.
      A has been teasing B - so you had unkindess - and wipe it out by teaching kindness.

      In all cases you have sorrow for the hurt and perhaps sorrow for the one doing the hurting.

  10. lionswhelp profile image80
    lionswhelpposted 9 years ago

    Whatever causes hate? I'm sure that Satan the devil is in the details, Revelation 12:9, John 8:42-44.

    Lionswhelp

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      sandra rinckposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Burn your money Lionswhelp.  smile

  11. AEvans profile image78
    AEvansposted 9 years ago

    I can honestly say I do not hate, I dislike ways of others sometimes but I cannot hate who they are. I guess I see things a little differently. My parents had so many ethnic friends that I believe I was a little over sheltered. smile and then I became defiant and thought I knew everything lessons I learned in my life have made me a much stronger person. smile

  12. LondonGirl profile image84
    LondonGirlposted 9 years ago

    I don't think I do hate anyone, really.

  13. TravelMonkey profile image57
    TravelMonkeyposted 9 years ago

    I do not hate any person, I hate actions or decisions people may make but not an actual person. I do actually hate cats though lol

  14. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 9 years ago

    Certainly the church way back when, you know we are the only true religon. But they teach it day in and day out on the good old tv. How would the ruling class get anybody to do anything without hate?

  15. pylos26 profile image75
    pylos26posted 9 years ago

    Hate flourishes where it is welcomed...first it is annoyance, then irritation, then bitterness, and if nourished sufficiently develops into full blown hate. However, one must employee savvy to achieve riddance of such a cancer. Hate provides little more than temporary personal satisfaction and then it starts and continues to burn your insides out as long as it is tolerated, which was surely always its primary objective.  pylos

    1. mohitmisra profile image59
      mohitmisraposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Love unites and hate disintegrates smile

 
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