Two controversial posts on facebook

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   Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago

   In recent news, a father found out that his teenage daughter was posting complaints, on her private facebook page, about how she feels her father makes her do too much work.  Needless to say, he responded by making a video of his own; where he not only reads her post, but he then shoots her laptop, while uploading the whole thing online to post on his facebook page and hers, to teach her a lesson.  Um...okay...  And so far, the post has generated a lot of hits...  Personally, i don't know if I agree with his actions, as one would think he'd talk to his daughter instead of going through all that crap...but what do I know?
   
   As for the other post, Mark Zuckerberg has been gaining a lot of heat from facebook users for liking a post by someone.  Personally, I don't see how it's a big deal, but again, what do I know?
   
   Anyway, here's the yahoo link if you want to see the video for yourselves.
   
   http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/trending-no … 58872.html

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      couturepopcafeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Seriously? You don't know if you agree with his actions?
      
      I think he proved her point. The man is obviously on his last nerve and is very likely taking it out on his daughter. What she's saying about might just be true and not the exaggeration of a teenage girl.

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         Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well to be fair, I was trying to be unbiased when I posted my op, so I didn't want to state my opinion before hearing what others had to say first.  However if you read my responses to psycheskinner, then you'll know that I don't agree with his actions, as I felt the best solution would've been to talk to the girl instead about this. 
         
         edit:  I do apologize for not making that clear enough though, as I know it could've been worded better.

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      Joelipooposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      How can you agree with this guy?  He handled the situation entirely wrong.  This was about as immature an action as he could take.  If this is the example he sets for his daughter, how is she supposed to know to behave any better?  The utter collapse of the family in this nation is disgusting.  It's not surprise our country is in so much trouble considering what people think the words "family" and "marriage" mean now.

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         couturepopcafeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Seriously. This guy is beyond the point of talking. And not to make light of the issue, he really needs to seek counseling.

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         Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well, if you like, you're more than welcome to see some of the comments on the original youtube video, as majority of the users there support him like crazy. 
         
         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl1ujzRidmU

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      Brenda Durhamposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I was rooting for the father until he himself referred to the daughter's "lazy a__".   So....maybe her cussin' was simply a mirror of the kind of language she receives from her parents, or at least the father.?
      
      I saw nothing wrong with the video or his shooting the laptop, except for that fact.  And even with that, he, as a parent, still had the right to ground her and shoot her laptop.  But yeah I think he should've refrained.

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      lorlie6posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Very, very strange, Steven.  Hmm, FB is one odd kettle of fish, don't you think?  Yep, I love to mix my metaphors...it's in my blood!!!
      
      PS:  Great to see you again!

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   psycheskinnerposted 13 years ago

   Shoots her laptop with a gun ?!
   
   Wow.  I think he is the one acting immaturely. Must be nice to be able to throw away a laptop just to make a point.

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      i don't disagree with you there.  granted, im not a parent, nor do i have any experience raising kids.  however, i think it would've been best to TALK to the girl about the post, rather than going through such extremes.  But then again, that's just me.

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         psycheskinnerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Quite. I mean what did she learn other than that her Dad is better at bitching on Facebook than she is?

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         vmartinezwilsonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well, I am a parent and that has to be the most inane thing I've seen a parent do in a while.  So instead of talking to his daughter and explain to her why it's her responsibility to do chores and work if she wants to spend his money, he destroys a computer that costs a pretty penny.
         
         It makes no sense to me.  It's wasteful and shows her that if she doesn't like something in the future, she should just destroy something and then try to humiliate the person causing her issues.
         
         Ugh.  No parent is perfect, but this guy is acting like a scorned pre-teen.

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      2besureposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      He could had donated it to charity!

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   pedrogposted 13 years ago

   First i thought this might be some made up viral video to make a few bucks, well i watched the video, no adverts on it, well, two thumbs up for that guy!

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   mega1posted 13 years ago

   there's a family with big problems, imo!

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      2besureposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Your right Mega1.  This dynamic started years ago when she was cute and daddy's little girl.  You have to set boundaries of discipline and co-respect when children are very little.

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         mega1posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         unfortunately, when family members act out with violence, it only begins bigger very dangerous actions.  I don't find anything funny about it.

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   Beth100posted 13 years ago

   The issues run deeper than the FB post between the father and daughter.  Whatever the reasons, there is no need to do what he had done.  His actions undermined him.  She will no longer respect him or trust him.  Bad move on his part.  Talking it through would have been smarter.  Besides, if she need FB as an outlet to scream, he should let her.  It's a better choice than drugs, alcohol or running away.

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   Disturbiaposted 13 years ago

   Oh please, this is just the kind of over the top drama that we see way too much of these days and seems to become more and more acceptable thanks to Youtube and reality TV.  On what planet is this acceptable behavior, and who but somebody desperately looking for his 15 minutes of fame does this kind of thing?  What would he have done if she came to him to air her issues, shoot her too?  Seems to me like dad still has some growing up of his own to do.  Maybe some therapy or medication might help, but he doesn't strike me as the kind who would consider those options.  He's not concerned about his daughter, he's too busy being Mr. Big Shot on Facebook.
   
   I think Mark Zuckerberg can like just about anything or anybody he wants to.

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   Nickaloochposted 13 years ago

   I thought he took it a bit far, but I liked it all at once. By no means am I watching a child so I have no idea what it is like to raise one, but from what I can see from my younger cousins, children think they can get away with anything on facebook.

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      couturepopcafeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      If this guy takes a gun - a lethal weapon - and destroys a minimum $500. toy, I think the girl is probably not exaggerating with her claim. He's got a screw unwound and needs to get some counseling.
      
      What suprises me is that some child welfare people aren't there right now investigating.

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         Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         If you think that's something, I just saw the original video on youtube, "Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen", and there's actually A LOT of youtube commentors on there applauding this guy for doing all this.  Now, that's freaking crazy if you ask me, as there's no excuse this man's actions.
         
         edit:  here's the link if you guys want to watch it
         
         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl1ujzRidmU

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   Garrett Mickleyposted 13 years ago

   It's like a digital spanking, since you can't do that anymore without being labeled a child abuser.
   
   I grew up being spanked as a kid and turned out alright.  I'm not addicted to drugs, I'm 23 and self employed.
   
   I mean my parents wouldn't shoot my laptop but they sure took it away from me when I didn't have good grades.
   
   I sure as heck NEVER disrespected my parents openly on Facebook (or anywhere else, for that matter).

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      Shanna11posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I grew up being spanked as well. My parents disciplined me and at times I absolutely hated their guts, but as an adult, I am so thankful they did! I grew up motivated and hard-working and unspoiled. One of my childhood best friend's was spoiled rotten when we were growing up and was never chastised. Her life is a mess now and she's unhappy and feels self-entitled.
      
      I hate how spanking is considered child abuse. Parents are NOT their children's best friends, nor should they try and curry favor with their child. They shouldn't harm their child or be strict, but if a kid needs discipline, do what works. I think the father was out of line shooting the laptop, but being friends with teenage girls on FB and being one myself, I can completely understand his blowing up.

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         Garrett Mickleyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I wouldn't shoot her laptop, but I sure as heck would have taken it away from her.  And hid the computer, the battery, and the charger all in different places.

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   Paradise7posted 13 years ago

   I can't see shooting anybody's anything as a form of parental discipline.  They are both extremely angry with each other, and I think they need family counseling to build some bridges.
   
   I certainly hope this situation doesn't escalate even further for both their sakes.

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    Greekgeekposted 13 years ago

    This is why Facebook is a disaster for real social networking.
    
    I wish, wish, wish the old "Journal" model had won out.
    
    1. Writing under a pen name so people can't search for you.
    2. You can create different friendslists and lock each post to one or more lists, filtering who has access to each post.
    
    So for example, I've got a "co workers" filter, a "family" filter, a "close friends" filter, an "expanded friends" (including online friends) filter, and a "Harry Potter fans" filter (okay, I made that up, but you can create filters so you don't spam everyone on your friends list with hobbies).
    
    You can then use the web to socialize -- or, in this case, vent teenaged angst with other teens, which is part of growing up -- without compromising your entire personal life to everybody.
    
    I do not understand why Facebook won out over the journaling communities model. They were here in the late 90s and are still quite active. Facebook has begun to adopt some of their practices, but it really isn't interested in letting you maintain your privacy.

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       mega1posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I am way too lazy to sort through my friends like that!  I post my knitting nerd comments right up there with my vacation plans and my quips about Charlie's poems and my photos of local lizards.   And I hope not too many teenagers actually know about filtering - or else their folks are in big trouble.  I only go on fb to spy on friends and acquaintances I really don't like much, just to see if they are very interesting or not.  From the large numbers of people who friend me and are never heard from again, I have a feeling I am either on their "d" list or they are spying too!  Ahh, it is so entertaining all this!

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    Richieb799posted 13 years ago

    Has anyone heard of the social networking site 'Little Gossip', apparently its getting the rap for lots of controversial posts there

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    Paradise7posted 13 years ago

    Never heard of "Little Gossip".  I think if you want some privacy in your comments, don't post them anywhere on line.  They'll show up to the wrong person or people sooner or later.

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    RTalloniposted 13 years ago

    'Twould be interesting to find out that the girl and her father cooked up the whole idea together because she wants to upgrade to a Mac and this was the easiest way to try to make the money for it.
    
    Or that they decided it was the easiest way to become famous.
    
    Or that they just wanted to create a bizarre sensation. 
    
    Or that they are in cahoots with a research sociologist who wanted to study human reaction to over-the-top conduct in order to complete a post-doctoral certificate in human behavior.
    
    Or perhaps it's a sign of the times.

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    LindaSmith1posted 13 years ago

    On the news, daughter put some expletives in her comment.  Dad shot up the computer, but he says she is going to have to pay to replace it.  Okay.  I wonder if he remembered her cell phone probably gives her access to the Internet, as well and then there is her friends etc. What she posted is nothing in comparison to most of the trash that is posted by teens such as nude pics, drinking parties etc.
    Maybe Dad needs to take a peek and see what teens are doing, that his daughter isn't. maybe what she did won't seem so bad afterall.

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       Garrett Mickleyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Comparing one bad thing to a worse thing doesn't make it right.

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