How Many People Do Not Have Kids
I can assure you, one day you will say " I want my Own Kids".
Source: Personal Experience.
So, you are voluntarily withdrawing your genes from the humanity gene pool... Does not know you enough to really tell is it beneficial to the humanity or not, I guess you should know better
But true. You'll get used to it, providing you stay here any longer.
Yes and no. We have a long history of relationships with SweetiePie here, that has both bright and dark sides. It's all in the context.
Yeah, sure Sweetie, you are 100% love and light, and I am 100% hate and darkness.
I was not actually talking about your personality here, I was talking about our relationship that has bright and dark sides, sorry if I worded this erroneously.You implied it Sweetie. Pretty much like I implied problems with your genes (which I don't believe you have ). I just did it consciously to tease you, and you just did not watch your words.
Talking about watching your words, who is this person that better never brought me up? My mother?
How dare you!
oops. I missed that one. sorry...not the place for me...I really meant that if you dont want a kid, its no crime...catch ya later sweetie pie. Have lots of fun and dont be hard on yourself.
I've broken my promise of ever coming to the forums again to respond to your post, Sweetiepie.
Yes, I agree. This is rather provocative for anyone to assume. There are all kinds of reasons people decide not to have children/or do not have them. And maybe it just could be that some people's genes could actually be BETTER than others...that they see the world may be populated enough, or that in their situation, having a child would not be a good idea as they could not give he/she what all is needed (true unselfishness), or that they are better off serving (sometimes in child related professions) or using their talents in the world in another way. And those reasons are just for starters.
And like it or not, women still have a harder time maintaining freedom having children. Just a fact.
Anyway. It is a choice. Absolutely. And I don't understand disparaging other people's choices. Unless, lol, you are somebody like Octomom or something. Now that's a reason perhaps, to disparage a choice(s). !
Thanks, Sweetie, for posting this.
Sure ma'am, sorry ma'am
*grabs his hat and silently leaves*My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years now and we don't have a child. I can't say I'm pressured to have one (although in our culture, not having one will make you the topic in any gathering)and we don't pressure each other as well
. I think we'll have one when we're good and ready, not because some people think we should have one. Right now, we're just enjoying each other's company and building up our assets (or riches ). My husband and I also talked about it and we think that if we'll have one or two, that's good. If we don't, then we're not meant to have one.It sounds like you and your husband are just taking time to get to know each other. Nothing wrong with that
. I not even saying I will 100% never going to have kids, but I am not going to feel my life was any less rewarding even if I do not.Hear, hear! And don't let people tell you otherwise
. Believe me, there are a lot of folks here who think that a woman's greatest mission in life is to have kids (plural, not singular). I just don't listen to them, that's all . I see no point in pressuring myself (and my hubby) to have one. I've also seen women here who are rich and fulfilled even if they don't have children, and women who are harassed and can't take care of their children. Believe me, I'm not ready to be in these harassed women's shoes.
Sorry if my thread sounded so serious
. I really do not even know how to start a fun thread. I have a feeling this is not a very popular topic anyway.I love guys who are good family men.
what you said is true but children are the parents' responsibilities also. I've seen so many irresponsible parents and children not very well treated because their parents weren't prepared. I don't want to become like these parents. If I think I'm not prepared, I would rather have no child at all.Good point, I made a crazy post years ago which received lots of attention. please don't be offended. It was my thought that all should be sterilized at child baring stage of life. As this op is now reversible. People wishing to start a family should be required to meet a few requirements before the reversal op. These reqirements should be IQ , mental stability test, and support in terms of Money.
Where i live I know of people who just have kids to get money of the govenment people have upto 11 kids of who i know and they get nearly £4000 a month from government.
These people are not responsible, hell most of them just let the kids roam the streets whilst they drink all day.
I think my requirements would stop the above and much of the anti social behavior from kids. IMO
I get what you are saying dennisematt. From experience I rarely start threads though because these never seem to go very far. It was just an obervation I have noticed
.I know. You can start a thread about lunch, and it lasts a day. You can start a thread about morals or religion or politcs, it will go on and on and on....but YOU and your original question will be long forgotten. I gave up in starting threads too.
I do think you are really a sweet girl.
Sorry SweetiePie, I think I'm hogging your post. You just posted a topic that is really interesting for me
.I am enjoying what you have to say
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- dennisemattposted 14 years ago
0Yes I know there is a few creases, and its a totally crazy idea. just a thought to stop all these producers of wasters. Wish it was that easy.
Well said, Dennise, Kids should be wanted from the heart, and I feel this in your words.
I don't have any children yet. I am 22 and I still have 3 years left of school. My parents had me when they were 24. When I was younger I thought that was a nice age to begin a family. But that isn't going to be the case for me. While my boyfriend and I have been together for four years and have great experience with children, its still not the time. I also have a condition where it might be difficult to get pregnant (same as Kate from Jon & Kate plus 8). So in my case it may not be wise to wait too long, but ya never know
I know ya'll think I'm crazy young to even think about kids. But I'm really not. I'm actually one of two out of 5 girls that have known each other since we were born that does not have children. The other girl just got back from her second tour in Iraq. But it will happen when it happens. But yes, I want children. However, some people can live extremely happy fulfilling lives not having had children. I don't think that having kids "is the point of life".Very good points Lita, and might I add I am glad to see you did come back, if only for a short visit
.That's cool. I understand. But making the comment that "they die like everything else" just isn't a reason for me. So do you have no pets, no plants, no loved ones because "they die like everything else"? I understand the rest of your reasons, just not that one
Em, you have your own purpose, Kristie has her own. At least at that moment her life seems to be about bringing up kids. I would say it's a worthy goal. Good parenting is a full time job and then some, ya know
My entire life doesn't revolve around them. Although my life does include them. I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, and a CNA. My life revolves around many things......Psss my kids are first though.
I will always feel a need to protect them..
Yes, that makes sense. You will admit, I think, that your initial statement sounded a little off
I don't think everyone feels this way about people who have no kids. I don't. Some people give back in other ways. I honestly wish I would have waited later in life to have my kids. But things happen for a reason and everyone is here for a reason. We all have some destiny for are life. Oh man, now I feel like im preaching and I hate the religious forums.
That's great that you think that way. I am just saying that many people with children do not think that way. But you don't need to prove that you do. I believe you. I wish more people felt like you do, including my mother
I don't think my life's satisfaction revolves around family and career. I love my family, but my life doesn't revolve around them. As for career, that has always just been about money - a means to an end, a job really. I basically work long enough to amass enough cash to quit and travel. This isn't to say that I've hated every job I have had. I liked most of them, but they weren't my life's fulfillment. My whole reason for working for myself now is to give me more freedom to travel, though there is certainly satisfaction in writing and finding that it pays the bills.
If I were pressed, I'd say my life's satisfactions revolve around my traveling - to see new things, to witness great natural beauty (God's direct hand upon the world), to wander through bustling cities, to meet new people.
And there's lots of other stuff I love too, but hardly any of them have anything to do with family or career.
I had to think back because I had my first child at 17.
I was in high school. I can remember protecting my brother a lot when I was a child because he always got in trouble because he wasn't very smart. So I would hide his progress reports so my mother didn't find out.
I am 33 now you know. Were talking almost 16 years ago...
SweetiePie, I am sure that people can live absolutely fulfilled lives without having children. I think it can be a little more difficult for someone who wants children and can't/doesn't have them; but even they build their own fulfilling lives after adjusting to the idea of not having children. People who don't want to have children have their reasons, and I don't think anyone who doesn't want something is going to feel less fulfilled if he doesn't get what he doesn't want.
- girly_girl09posted 14 years ago0
I really want one or two, but not until I've accomplished my career goals. If I'm not married with kids by the time I'm 35, I'll adopt. I'm very motherly and absolutely love children. I could not imagine not having kids someday.
Scary to think about because it's only 13 years away now....lol I better get cracking. omg you guys are turning me religious. DID you read what I posted.
- Leta Sposted 14 years ago0
My sister had kids really young, starting at eighteen, but she seems really happy with her life choices. My nephew and niece are both ten and seven and they are wonderful and beautiful children. I love them a lot, and even if I never have kids I have always had the experience of being around them
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I think, "Thank God she didn't have kids!" is exactly the right reaction
Did you REALLY Asked your HEART? If yes, you are an exception.
- you know you just read my mind. Actually, we're kind of semi-adopting our 2 1/2 year-old niece right now. Not because we want to adopt a child but because it is our way to help my sister, who is her biological mother. I like having her around and, although a lot of people have been telling me that having her will "get" me pregnant, I'm not in a hurry to have my own yet. We're just contented to be surrogate parents right now.
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