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   Rowlycoolposted 13 years ago

   Why do so many young people today find it difficult to build a true friendship?

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   Mistrust and paranoia.

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      cagsil although you always seem to have something to say even in topics you often say that you don't care about you comment anyways. i don't think you should laugh or make fun of such a matter, as i do think this is a serious topic.  having said that though, i think a lot of it can be attributed to a lot of things.  however, i would mostly blame the media on how it constantly promotes stereotypes and false information to sell the news, that makes most of youths paranoid and mistrusting.  plus, i think another contributing factor is the continuing growth between economic social classes, as the recession continues to hit us pretty hard these days.  at least that's my opinion

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         Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Hey Steven,
         
         I find it ironic that you address my comment for whatever reason.
         
         However, since you have, then you've forced me to defend my position(what I said). And for your information, I was addressing the underlying problems with youth today.
         
         And, had you recently both to check out anything I've recently written, as a part of the 60 Day Challenge, then you might have not bothered with my comment, and simply addressed the topic, which is something you should have done in the first place.
         
         Making a comment about my comment, makes you appear as a small person. Next time, let knowledge and wisdom guide your fingers and not your ego.
         
         Just a thought.

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            Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            first of all, cagsil.  i wasn't criticizing you at all.  i was just merely telling you my opinion.  that's all.  besides, if i was going to insult you, then i would've said something far more insulting to you.  you can be sure of that.  all i said was that i felt you shouldn't poke fun out a serious issue, as your laughing icon suggested.  as far as reading your hubs, you never even read mine, so why are you criticizing me for not reading yours?  Seriously, you make it sound like i have an obligation to read every single hub in the 60 day challenge thing.  have you ever bothered to read all of mine then if that's the case?  if not, then i don't see how that point is relevant.  anyways, i wasn't trying to insult or criticize you.  just trying to point out that joking about a serious topic was unnecessary when you put up the laughing icon.  however, i guess you ALWAYS ASSUME THE WORST ABOUT ME, as it always seems in forums.  i merely can't win with you cagsil, as you'll always try to paint out anything i say to you as an insult, as people believe whatever they want anyway.  you want to think i insult you, when I DID NOT, the go ahead.  it doesn't bother me.

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   Beth100posted 13 years ago

   The basics of building a relationship begin in the home.  Children learn from example.  They learn and test these skills within the family set.  Unfortunately, families are disintegrating at high rates which leaves a school room empty of teachers.  The skills that they require to build a relationship is now based on trial and error.  Who they try this on may be from a intact family or one from a broken family. If they are trying testing their skills on a peer from a intact family, then they might learn the how to and don't do's from this person.  If so, then they will begin to develop relationship skills.  On the other hand, if the peer is also from a broken family and does not have the skill set to build a relationship, they are both floundering and trying their best to form a relationship.  In these cases, there is a high probability that any difficulties will result in the termination of the relationship.

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   Beth100posted 13 years ago

   Okay, little boys, stop the fighting!!  It's been too long since there has been sooo much drama...  let's not begin that again!!!
   
   
   Cool your heels, both of you.  You're hijacking the thread...WAIT!!
   
   This is a good example of how NOT to build a relationship.

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      yeah, your right. life is too short for petty stuff like this, so why ruin it even more.  it's a shame we're not at a bar right now. otherwise i'd offer to buy us all a round of beers to bury the hatchet, so to speak.

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   Beth100posted 13 years ago

   Much better Steven, much better.

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   klarawieckposted 13 years ago

   That hasn't been my experience. It's easy to make friends, but then again... here in Miami we have a lot of spanish-speaking people and the Americans that have stayed in spite of the replacement of the first language, are happy go-lucky campers that love to tailgate and drink cuban coffee. Socially, Miami is very different. People are warm and it's easy to meet people and make friends.
   Just today, I hugged a total stranger. I thought she was a friend that had gone to college with me and whom I had not seen in years. I went up to her with open arms and said "Maitee, It's been so long!" Just when I was about to hug her I realized the woman's expression of terror. I tried to appologize but she smiled and said anyone can benefit from a hug, and hugged me either way. LOL So embarassing!

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   LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years ago

   Rowleycrew...
   
   It is because they  love the alpha waves of technology...they take no time to be still and learn themselves so they can be a friend....

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      sofsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Forming friendship  is the most natural thing to do , the fact that you ask this question show how we are more glued not to the not so natural activities that our very nature is getting changed!

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   fucsiaposted 13 years ago

   I think the attention of young people is focused on appear. The media have a great responsibility in this. Appearing mean not being ourself. Young people are full of problems that are not real problems, but induced by a society that makes them insecure. Maybe it is the fear of the opinions of others and their inability to be true the reasons of their relationship problems

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   swapna123posted 13 years ago

   Our fast lives leave us with no time to differentiate 'true friends' from 'just friends'.. Social networking sites, blogs, our whole lives are on internet. Our facebook or orkut profiles show us having around 200 or 300 friends. And all of them know quite a lot about our lives through our pics, videos and updates. Most of the youngsters today have no time to find out whom they actually trust and value out of these many friends or acquaintances they have. There's no time to call someone and talk, we only have time to comment upon or update twitter or facebook status. Once in a while, we do have a high school reunion or some other programs again planned via these forums and sites, but that's it. Once we delete the profile, we lose touch with most of them.

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