Can I Really Mend a Broken Heart

How Can I Mend A Broken Heart

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Let's Get It On

So you've finished with your partner...or your partner has finished with you? It doesn't really matter how it ended...it's ended and you just have this simple little matter of a broken heart to get through. Some people say there's no way to fix it...other people say it's easy...you just forget about it and move on. All things seem to point to the old chestnut about time being the healer...and that makes sense. Time certainly does help to repair the damage but that doesn't mean you can't move it along a little bit faster with the investment of a little effort and ingenuity. There's no magic pill. That would just be wishful thinking and it would be rather silly too because that would serve to alienate the concept of you having emotions in the first place. There might possibly be a way of erasing your memories...who knows for sure? I don't...but I'm certain that if there is a way to erase memories it would bring forth it's own complications.

The whole concept of mending a broken heart opens up a bounty of incalculable possibilities and conditions. It's an intangible adventure and because of this....because there are no ways to precision-judge it's progress...I'm just going to run through some points and tips which are bound to help soften and muffle the contorted torments of unrecoverable love.

So...time heals all wounds. That may be true but...in my opinion...there are ways to help it along so that you can heal faster...ways which will afford you considerable amounts of distraction from the main issue. Interruption of the pain...emotional dissipation...the key to making a welcome blur of your horrible feelings.


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In my own battle with the demolished emotions of my shattered heart I tried all sorts and I found the most successful way to overcome the pain and misery was by playing my guitar and writing break-up songs every spare second of the darkening day...spilling vitriolic words of venom and crimson spatterings of A-positive on my fretboard...but that's silly. I decided to try other things...affirmations, empowering questions, positive thinking, mantras, temporal tapping...and all other manner of neuro-scientific aberration to reduce my pain. Oh...and I tried chocolate...which worked for a while.

I read about repairing broken hearts on other sites...and it rather kept me at 'square one' because the 'magic advice' I was looking for simply wasn't there. I soon realised that the 'magic advice'...like the 'magic pill'...just doesn't exist.

So...I put together my own 10-point plan for dampening the effects of heart-sickness. Certain things work for certain people and what works for me won't necessarily work for you...but it can't do any harm trying...and even if you notice even just a 10% upturn in your melancholia after trying to live by some of these rules...it's an improvement not to be sniffed at.


As I worked on my 10 basic points of the broken heart repair plan I made up my own systems and added my own personal requirements to the project...and I worked very hard to achieve what I set out to achieve.

It's always best to keep things personal. What do I mean by that? Well...it's great to work to mantras and affirmations...for example...and you will benefit from using any of mine...or any others you might find in books or programmes...but it'll give better results if you tailor the words and sentiments to suit your own personality and to reflect your own exclusive circumstance. That's what I think anyway. I could be wrong? I'm often not, though.

I do believe that if you persevere with this hub and if you do put some of these ideas into practice...it will help you to get through the torment of your breakdown in love. You will definitely get out of it what you put in. It's not a case of reading this and sitting back and waiting for some kind of incredible victory. The more work you do the more you'll grow and the easier it will be for you to reach that happiness that you actually deserve.

On this hub I'll put the links to the 10 basic points in my broken heart repair plan so you can just click on each one of the 10 links and work on them...at your leisure and in whichever order you wish. It's best to work on them simultaneously (that means...all at the same time...ha ha)

On each of the 10 points I shall give an example of some empowering questions...and some affirmations. They really are powerful tools to work with. I hope you'll take a little time to try these techniques out...they really do work.

So...without further ado....good luck

THIS ALL WORKED FOR ME...I HOPE IT WORKS FOR YOU XXX

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You'll see that a lot of the affirmations relate to confidence and self-esteem and reaching goals. Mostly...as you are building up your life in all these directions...you are automatically moving away from the negative aspects of your personality and you'll consequently be leaving sadness and heartache behind.

As far as the affirmations go...repeat them to yourself...in front of the mirror if you can...out loud...ten times a day....more if you can. You'll soon notice the raise in your spirits as the usage of the affirmations will become more and more natural to you.

With the empowering questions...use the same approach. Keep asking these questions and the answers will eventually come to you subconsciously. They will improve your life no end.

LINKS BY NUMBERS

PLEASE CLICK ON THE LINKS THAT FOLLOW FOR EACH STAGE OF THIS LITTLE 'BROKEN HEART REPAIR PLAN'

MORE STAGES WILL BE ADDED CONSTANTLY...UNTIL I RUN OUT OF IDEAS...BASICALLY...BY WHICH TIME...IF YOU'VE NOT FIXED YOUR BROKEN HEART THEN I'D GIVE UP IF I WERE YOU

ONLY JOKING...YOU'LL GET THERE. IT'S ALL ABOUT PERSEVERING...AND LIKE ANYTHING IN LIFE....IF IT'S POSSIBLE THEN IT CAN BE DONE....IF IT CAN BE VISUALISED...IT'S DO-ABLE...IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT...THEN IT'S WITHIN THE REALMS OF POSSIBILITY.


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I would love to hear your thoughts on this article...so if you have any opinions to offer...or experiences or examples to share...please put them in the 'comments ' section below.


Perhaps you have your own story to tell ?

What do you think ?

How do you feel ?

What is your opinion ?

Are you working on something similar ?


I will respond to all comments and I look forward to hearing from you


Thank You


Andy



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OMGirdle 3 years ago from United States

Great Hub with plausible techniques! I think time is a major factor in getting over someone. Time and the distracting elements which of course create the time.


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ufk 3 years ago from Maidstone England Author

Thank you for that comment. I have only just started writing this hub....you must have only seen the first few paragraphs...and yes...I do think it's only really time that can fix it. I'm only at the start of this and I'm about to start on the 10 points next :) Thank you again


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Liam Noone 2 years ago from South East England

The poll is difficult because it is true that only time can truly mend a broken heart, but I do think that NLP and the like can definitely help you move along faster. In some ways I think you can't really ever mend a broken heart, and sometimes it can only really get better if/when you fall in love again. What do you think? A lot of advice on getting over a broken heart actually rules AGAINST jumping into another relationship. That's maybe true, best not to jump in for the sake of trying to feel you are in love. If it DOES come along though.....surely that is a great help?


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ufk 2 years ago from Maidstone England Author

Thank you for the kind words. The 'rushing into another relationship' syndrome is a bit of a double-edged sword, I guess. On the one hand it can act as a great distraction, and it also serves a wonderful purpose in that, at a time when you are feeling utterly rejected and disillusioned, lo & behold, somebody is showing that you are worthy of love. Somebody actually wants you. The problems are many though. What if the person actually truly cares a lot for you but you are only using them to get over your 'true love'? Are you willing, then, to take the risk of hurting someone as much as you yourself got hurt? What if the new person is not that into you really, it's just a passing interest, and you actually fall deeply for them? Out of the fat and into the frying-pan.

Much to think about really. Thanks for reading.

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