Can I Really Mend a Broken Heart
How Can I Mend A Broken Heart
Let's Get It On
So you've finished with your partner...or your partner has finished with you? It doesn't really matter how it ended...it's ended and you just have this simple little matter of a broken heart to get through. Some people say there's no way to fix it...other people say it's easy...you just forget about it and move on. All things seem to point to the old chestnut about time being the healer...and that makes sense. Time certainly does help to repair the damage but that doesn't mean you can't move it along a little bit faster with the investment of a little effort and ingenuity. There's no magic pill. That would just be wishful thinking and it would be rather silly too because that would serve to alienate the concept of you having emotions in the first place. There might possibly be a way of erasing your memories...who knows for sure? I don't...but I'm certain that if there is a way to erase memories it would bring forth it's own complications.
The whole concept of mending a broken heart opens up a bounty of incalculable possibilities and conditions. It's an intangible adventure and because of this....because there are no ways to precision-judge it's progress...I'm just going to run through some points and tips which are bound to help soften and muffle the contorted torments of unrecoverable love.
So...time heals all wounds. That may be true but...in my opinion...there are ways to help it along so that you can heal faster...ways which will afford you considerable amounts of distraction from the main issue. Interruption of the pain...emotional dissipation...the key to making a welcome blur of your horrible feelings.
In my own battle with the demolished emotions of my shattered heart I tried all sorts and I found the most successful way to overcome the pain and misery was by playing my guitar and writing break-up songs every spare second of the darkening day...spilling vitriolic words of venom and crimson spatterings of A-positive on my fretboard...but that's silly. I decided to try other things...affirmations, empowering questions, positive thinking, mantras, temporal tapping...and all other manner of neuro-scientific aberration to reduce my pain. Oh...and I tried chocolate...which worked for a while.
I read about repairing broken hearts on other sites...and it rather kept me at 'square one' because the 'magic advice' I was looking for simply wasn't there. I soon realised that the 'magic advice'...like the 'magic pill'...just doesn't exist.
So...I put together my own 10-point plan for dampening the effects of heart-sickness. Certain things work for certain people and what works for me won't necessarily work for you...but it can't do any harm trying...and even if you notice even just a 10% upturn in your melancholia after trying to live by some of these rules...it's an improvement not to be sniffed at.
As I worked on my 10 basic points of the broken heart repair plan I made up my own systems and added my own personal requirements to the project...and I worked very hard to achieve what I set out to achieve.
It's always best to keep things personal. What do I mean by that? Well...it's great to work to mantras and affirmations...for example...and you will benefit from using any of mine...or any others you might find in books or programmes...but it'll give better results if you tailor the words and sentiments to suit your own personality and to reflect your own exclusive circumstance. That's what I think anyway. I could be wrong? I'm often not, though.
I do believe that if you persevere with this hub and if you do put some of these ideas into practice...it will help you to get through the torment of your breakdown in love. You will definitely get out of it what you put in. It's not a case of reading this and sitting back and waiting for some kind of incredible victory. The more work you do the more you'll grow and the easier it will be for you to reach that happiness that you actually deserve.
On this hub I'll put the links to the 10 basic points in my broken heart repair plan so you can just click on each one of the 10 links and work on them...at your leisure and in whichever order you wish. It's best to work on them simultaneously (that means...all at the same time...ha ha)
On each of the 10 points I shall give an example of some empowering questions...and some affirmations. They really are powerful tools to work with. I hope you'll take a little time to try these techniques out...they really do work.
So...without further ado....good luck
THIS ALL WORKED FOR ME...I HOPE IT WORKS FOR YOU XXX
You'll see that a lot of the affirmations relate to confidence and self-esteem and reaching goals. Mostly...as you are building up your life in all these directions...you are automatically moving away from the negative aspects of your personality and you'll consequently be leaving sadness and heartache behind.
As far as the affirmations go...repeat them to yourself...in front of the mirror if you can...out loud...ten times a day....more if you can. You'll soon notice the raise in your spirits as the usage of the affirmations will become more and more natural to you.
With the empowering questions...use the same approach. Keep asking these questions and the answers will eventually come to you subconsciously. They will improve your life no end.
LINKS BY NUMBERS
PLEASE CLICK ON THE LINKS THAT FOLLOW FOR EACH STAGE OF THIS LITTLE 'BROKEN HEART REPAIR PLAN'
MORE STAGES WILL BE ADDED CONSTANTLY...UNTIL I RUN OUT OF IDEAS...BASICALLY...BY WHICH TIME...IF YOU'VE NOT FIXED YOUR BROKEN HEART THEN I'D GIVE UP IF I WERE YOU
ONLY JOKING...YOU'LL GET THERE. IT'S ALL ABOUT PERSEVERING...AND LIKE ANYTHING IN LIFE....IF IT'S POSSIBLE THEN IT CAN BE DONE....IF IT CAN BE VISUALISED...IT'S DO-ABLE...IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT...THEN IT'S WITHIN THE REALMS OF POSSIBILITY.
BROKEN HEART ONE
The first step of your broken heart repair plan...with affirmations and empowering questions. BREAK ALL CONTACT- LOSE THE HABITS
BROKEN HEART TWO
Here's the second section of the broken heart repair plan. FORGIVE AND FORGET- FORGIVE YOUR EX- FORGIVE YOURSELF
BROKEN HEART THREE
The third section in the broken heart repair guide...APPRECIATE FRIENDS AND FAMILY- WHEN YOU NEED THEM MOST
BROKEN HEART FOUR
The fourth section in broken heart repair....RE-INVENTION- RE-INVENT YOURSELF- NEW LIFE- NEW PROJECTS
BROKEN HEART FIVE
Section five in the broken heart repair plan- EXERCISE- RELEASE ENDORPHINS- INCREASE SEROTONINS
BROKEN HEART SIX
Part six of the broken heart repair plan....GOAL-SETTING AND CREATING TARGETS
BROKEN HEART SEVEN
Here's stage seven of the broken heart repair plan...FIND NEW INTERESTS AND CREATE VARIETY
BROKEN HEART EIGHT
Part eight of the broken repair plan concerns PUTTING FOCUS ON YOUR GOOD POINTS
BROKEN HEART NINE
The penultimate section....and for the ninth step we'll tackle LEARNING TO IMPROVE and POSITIVE THINKING
BROKEN HEART TEN
So we made it to the tenth stage...and it's what I call the JAMBOREE BAG of the broken heart repair world....and it promises all the fun of the fair jamboree
Broken Heart Poll
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