Approach your marriage like it is forever and have a real stake in making it work. Communicate, and laugh. Don't sabotage yourselves by playing stupid games: such as "what are you thinking?" "If I died who you you marry?" This kind of crap is useless and causes more problems than a newlywed can imagine.
I've been married for almost 43 years and my husband is my best friend and not to sound corny - but to me he is "home." We talk about everything, share things, and often compromise to avoid a fight because in the long run some compromises are easier than the pain of having a huge fight.
Never ever ever say things that you don't mean in the heat of battle because like ringing a bell--it cannot be undone. You or your spouse may apologize but what is said will stick for a life time even though the fight is long over and resolved.
Talk about these kinds of things beforehand. I will not allow my husband to treat me with disrespect and he is the same. There are lines we just will not cross. He is everything to me, why would I treat him badly or speak rudely to him - he is the same way with me.
works for us anyway....