Is There Something Wrong With Splitting a Meal's Cost?

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   CrescentSkiesposted 11 years ago

   Is There Something Wrong With Splitting a Meal's Cost?
   
   I'm asking this in the politics section because it deals with politics. Is it wrong that after a good hour of your date talking about women's rights and equal treatment during a meal to try and split the cost of the meal? The last time this happened the woman reacted with a "some man you are...". I never saw her again...nor do I ever wish to.
   
   Did I do anything wrong or is this kind of hypocrisy something I should learn to expect from girls who spend an hour talking about women's rights?

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   I would say a gentleman should always pay, especially on the first few dates. After you have been dating awhile, then I think it to be okay if she picks up the tab every so often.

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   Justsilvieposted 11 years ago

   It may be old fashioned, however good manners used to dictate, when issuing an invitation to a meal out it was a given you pay for it and since most dates were initiated by the man, them paying was expected. Also men historically earned more and I am sure that also influenced the situation.
   
   If it is a friend or an ongoing relationship sharing the bill or taking turns paying should never be a problem unless is a big difference in your financial situations or someone is a gold digger.
   
   For a first date, the old fashioned approach should be expected even if the woman is a very verbal feminist, old habits die hard.

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      CrescentSkiesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      True enough I suppose, though I've actually seen similar things happen in cases where the girl asked the guy out. Curse whoever was the first man to do this!

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      Justsilvieposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You could just ask before the date is set? Heck, many women might just jump at the chance to start of on a very even footing!

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   caponposted 11 years ago

   I think we are missing a vital piece of information..............."Who invited whom?"
   Once the answer is know, the question is likely to become rhetorical.
   Happy days of courting.

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   H-Chrisposted 11 years ago

   I've had the opposite of your problem, where men I've asked out have refused to let me pay for dinner. I agree with capon, if I ask someone to join me for dinner then I pay. Unless we'd established that we'll be going dutch.
   
   My husband and I have a friend who would always try to pay our bill when we ate out, usually saying he had to use the restroom and then slipping off to the cashier.
   I know he meant to be kind but it made me feel like a mooch. So we asked him to stop with the ninja tactics, if he wanted to treat us tell us out right. A birthday or anniversary if fine as long as he will let us reciprocate.

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