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Should it be legal for an 18 yr old to have sex with a 14 yr old?

  1. VVanNess profile image89
    VVanNessposted 3 years ago

    At the moment, in most states this brings up the laws and statutes protecting minors. Regardless of whether or not the minor is "consenting" is null and void due to their minor status. In many states, even an 18 year old with a 17 or 16 year old is illegal.

    However, a legal case is currently being held to determine if the same rules that apply to heterosexual relationships also applies to homosexual ones. An 18 year old girl has been caught in a sexual relationship with a 14 year old girl and charges are being brought against her. But the parents are fighting it because they see it as discrimination rather than statutory rape. What is your opinion?

    1. autumn18 profile image68
      autumn18posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      My opinion is that it shouldn't matter if it's same sex or not. Minor is minor.

      1. VVanNess profile image89
        VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Exactly.

      2. Josak profile image61
        Josakposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        +1

    2. wilderness profile image95
      wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      If the parents win the case it will be because there is a loophole in existing laws (which unfortunately does happen).

      No sane lawmaker would write a law on statutory rape with such a meaning in mind.

      1. Uninvited Writer profile image83
        Uninvited Writerposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        I wonder if the parents would have wanted to involve the police if it was an 18 year old boy? Of course, we will never know.

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          Motown2Chitownposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          I can guarantee that they would.  I have a very close family friend whose son is currently serving a 3 year prison sentence because of an identical situation.  It has nothing at all to do with sexual orientation or the gender of those involved.  It has to do with violating a child, and the parents doing what they believe is right to protect their child.  Regardless of the fact that this case involves two girls, it involves statutory rape, in which case, the law is no respecter of persons.

          *Edit - after reading about this situation, I can also share something else.  This young lady's parents felt that she should reject the plea deal, which involved NO jail time at all.  The young man I spoke of above got three years in jail - and that WAS his plea deal.  IMO, I feel it incredibly likely that if the 18 year old girl in the case above had been the victim, her parents would certainly have felt that the older person in question should face consequences.  It's interesting that since their daughter is the perpetrator in the case, they feel she should simply be forgiven and allowed to move on with no consequence.  In addition to that, they keep rambling on about how the case is only garnering attention because it involves two individuals of the same gender.  That's bullshit.  It's garnering attention because they built a Facebook page and ran running to anyone who would hear them to 'defend' their daughter.  Had it simply been left to the county in which they live to prosecute and deal with the case, I would be willing to bet that no one would be paying it any mind at all.

          1. VVanNess profile image89
            VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            Exactly. This case shouldn't have been given a second thought. The girl committed a crime against a child and should be treated like any other victimizer in this situation.

        2. wilderness profile image95
          wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          I doubt that you would find very many parents that would collect evidence or call the cops on their child that is "loving" a younger child.  They may (probably will) understand that they should, but won't do it.  It would be a very tough thing to do, and the possibility of rationalizing it into a different relationship very very high.

          1. VVanNess profile image89
            VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

            You know wilderness, I was the victim in this exact same situation at 13 and my parents did absolutely nothing. I've never forgiven them. The only parents that wouldn't protect their children simply don't care.

            1. wilderness profile image95
              wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

              I think we're talking about different parents; I spoke of the parents of the rapist, not the victim.  I'd have to agree that something is very, very wrong when the parents of a raped child don't take action.

              1. Josak profile image61
                Josakposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                I don't know, if when my son was 16 he had been going out with an 18 year old (I believe this is illegal in some places) I would have talked to him about it and if he was OK I wouldn't have reported it.

                1. VVanNess profile image89
                  VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

                  I think that would be a slightly different situation though. Still illegal in most states if parents want to press charges, but sometimes kids a year or two apart are just dating. 13 and 15, and even younger, is a completely different story.

        3. VVanNess profile image89
          VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          Well of course the parents wouldn't have wanted to involve the police regardless of whether the 18 year old was a boy or a girl. It's their child. But the way they're going about trying to get their daughter out of the charges is just wrong.

  2. Dr Billy Kidd profile image93
    Dr Billy Kiddposted 3 years ago

    I think the better question is: Should an 18 year old be able to impregnate a 14 year old and not be responsible for the baby (which is raised on welfare) or for the abortion?

    1. VVanNess profile image89
      VVanNessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      What?!

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    Beth37posted 3 years ago

    The child's innocence was taken. Sex is sex regardless of penetration.

    1. wilderness profile image95
      wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      Not according to Bill Clinton....

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        Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

        haha, I thought the same thing, but I was afraid someone would think I was taking a potshot at democrats.

        1. wilderness profile image95
          wildernessposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          smile  Doesn't much matter to me; I dislike Republicans nearly as much.  Or at least the politician of either side - most people are decent creatures at heart.

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            Beth37posted 3 years ago in reply to this

            You think so? Im watching Arrested Development. It makes it hard to imagine that's true.

 
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