What's wrong with a girl 17 years of age dating a 22 year old guy?

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   Brinafr3shposted 7 years ago

   What's wrong with a girl 17 years of age dating a 22 year old guy?
   
   Would you be concerned if the girl age 17 was your daughter?

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   Jeremy Gillposted 7 years ago

   Depending on where you live and which laws apply, if the two are having a sexual relationship, it could count as sex with a minor, so definitely be aware of varying state laws.
   
   Age of consent aside, that's only a 5 year gap. Within a few years (her 20, him 25), I doubt anyone would bat their eyes. I wouldn't mind my daughter doing this as long as the guy himself was a good person and treated her well. Better a slightly older quality boyfriend than a same-aged jerk.
   
   That said, if she's still in high school and he's graduated, that could cause friction. It's really case-by-case, I suppose.

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   Agathe Lposted 7 years ago

   I dated a 20 year old guy when I was 16. My parents weren't happy about it. But you know, if the guy is willing to meet the girl's parents and put some efforts into making the daughter happy then you shouldn't worry too much. Just make sure she tells the parents whenever they're going out on a date. Also, give some advice to your daughter. Tell her that she is worthy and don't lower herself down for an approval from the guy (in case the guy pressured her into having a sexual relationship.) Tells her in a nice way though and tell her that you believe in her.
   
   If you're afraid that the guy is taking an advantage of the girl then just see if he's willing to meet the parents. Just see his attitude around her and you'll know:)
   
   On a side note, the daughter could be seeking affection from older guy because of some daddy issues. So yeah, be concerned but trust your daughter.

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Actually in the U.S. it's fairly common for high school girls to want to date older guys. Freshman girls seek to attract boys who are juniors and seniors rather than boys their own age.
      I doubt it's about daddy issues at that stage of life.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   I don't have any children.
   However I suspect most parents would be against it because of the likelihood that a 22 year old man is sexually active.
   Very few parents of teenagers especially teenage girls want to believe they are sexually active although according to statistics the average age a person loses their virginity in the U.S. happens to be age 17. In some states {age of consent} is 16.
   For the whole nation of Canada it's age 16. Mexican states have a "primary" age of consent (which may be as low as 12)!
   Secondly there is fear the daughter will have her heart broken. More than likely the guy has more sexual experience and could possibly be out simply to have some "fun" with her while she on the other hand becomes (emotionally invested) with him.
   Lastly since boys her age aren't likely to have the financial means and life experience it might make her view the 22 year old as her "ideal mate" because he may own a car, has gone to college, or has his own apartment and works. She may forgo her dreams of going to college and instead move in with him believing he is her "soulmate". Basically trading in her youth.
   In reality it's not the 5 year age gap that worries the parents as much as the timing of it. For example if their daughter was 25 and he was 30 or she was 30 and he was 35 most likely the parents wouldn't be as concerned.
   Nevertheless it's still a (5 year) age difference.

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      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      EXCELLENT synopsis, couldn't agree more.....

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         dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks!
         
         No one would think twice about a 60 year old and 65 year old.
         Thus we know it's not about the (5) years.
         
         As one old adage goes: "Timing is everything!"

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