Whose fault, these children?

Many parents may not agree with this, but the truth is the overall failure with children in discipline, love, and thoughtfulness is mainly a result of their lack of proper parenting by you! That doesn’t mean the kids have been given a multiple indefinite passports. Visas to come and go as they please, with excuses, believing that their parents have already died for their sins and theirs is a free ticket to absurdity. That's ludicrous!

Each and every day I thank the Most High God for the mother that I have. I give Him thanks because more than anything else in this world I am happy that my mother is still around. I need not suffer any regrets, knowing that regrets are for selfish and rebellious losers. Her presence here means to me that I can still have chats with my source, I can still show true love, and I can still say that I am sorry and mean it. I can still ask for her forgiveness -- for whatever, it's relative.I can still know my transgressions. I can still contribute towards her happiness, because she is my mother, and it would be a shame for me not to know what would possibly make my mother happy!

Do you sincerely know what makes your mother happy? Here is a start if your parents are still around. Each day as I rise I allow my mind to remember the past, growing up watching my parents sweat and toil to provide for their children. I allow the memories of all the beautiful times we shared to help invoke that spirit of true love that I felt for them then and now to be a part of my existence,just as if I depended on their true love even now. That care and concern through love covers all. It becomes my duty to call and call again, speaking louder each time , insuring that my mother hears me, because with age she has lost some of her hearing, but that encourages me , for she is my mother, and I love her dearly .

Also, now that I am grown, if I were to come across any of life’s tough spots, I am fully equipped with the world’s second foremost authority on me, who is present and at my disposal. I do not have to worry about her attitude or biases. Great mothers don't indulge in those types of actions with their children. As long as I deliver the truth, as I was taught, I would get the truth in return and possibly more. Because she is here, I still have the very best shoulder to lean on. The very best friends children can ever have are undoubtedly their parents, and I have mine still around and available, even at my “over fifty age.” This big child, her baby, is in heaven on earth!

One of the very few places in this world that children, whether big or small, can be totally relaxed and at perfect peace is in the arms and the presence of their parents. If asked, most will tell you, it’s their mother’s presence. I love you, my dearest mother, and I do hope that my ways and actions, which have, without any doubt, been molded exactly like you ordered, makes you feel as proud and satisfied to be my mother, as I am being your son. Your approval ratings are the highest they could ever be with “me” as your child. I am the proudest that any child can be of his parents.

Children in these times are not gettingit correct, and some parents are making ongoing mistakes over and over and over.Hoping! Instead ofknowing that they are the ones who need to learn from their mistakes and from the mistakes of other parents, instead of nonchalantly fantasizing, they are hoping that it was actually the other way around -- that it’s the children who are supposed to be learning from their mistakes. How can anyone learn without a teacher?

Whatever they become when they finally grow up, you will be directly responsible. Like my mother would say, “Son, the apple never falls far from the tree.”So, without a responsible parent, that kid is lacking terribly!

The parents need to take a look in the mirror!

Everything that my mother had said to me before, I am now convinced was for my own good, and because she knew it was also, she never stopped preaching, nor did she just simply back away because of my opposing reactions. Instead, she was bent on finding ways to make sure that the lessons stuck with me.

I am extremely proud that she has lived to reach this almost impossible age of ninety-one. Her birthday was October 9th. It is most important for her to be able see all the things that she has said come to past, and, like clockwork, they did, and here she is, watching them come to past even in me.

Speaking to kids in our times is a very daunting task! For one, they are reluctant to listen, and guess what? Not even their parents, some who have had lessons from parents like mine, are now able to get their kids to listen. That's exactly when that downward spiral toward utter destruction starts.

Great children are ones who have learned from all that their parents have taught them and continue to be those model children that their parents have come to respect and love. Or they are children who have quickly broken away from the norm and have set out to “improve” on what their parents had settled for as best, and these children would “not” tolerate anything different.

Love for your kids until their age of their own accountability is simply teaching them what is correct. There are no mistakes about who they later will become. There is no time for words like, “if I had known,” because you do! Look across the news and pray that it’s not your kid who will later in life use those improbable words, “If only my parents did not let me have my own way. If only my parents had exercised a little tough love.”

When kids get confused, and, believe me, they do more often than you can imagine, you, the parents, should be the authority, the only ones with the remedy for their dilemma.

Somehow the name “Doctor Mom” keeps popping up.