Hmm...man and woman are on very different pace, when it come to relationship. Psychologist suggest, man take the parcticall approach towards love, where woman take the more emotional approach. So, woman frequently like stuff suh as romance, where guy on the other hand, might find that sort of things boring and look for more practical things such as, what sort of wife, mother and daughter in law she would make and/or whether she is attractive.
My opinion for couple, who are still dating is that, you must be honest with yourself and your partner and face your problems head on and find the best way of resolving it, even if it is to break up. Now, considering you guys are married, the idea of breaking up, as a resolution to the problem, is probably out of the question. However, you still need to face your problems head on and find a resolution to it and the problem is "you want more intimacy and he is not interest intimacy, outside the bed room." This is a problem involving two people, you two need to work it out together. Be open and tell him what you need, but in the same time, remeber what he need also. My suggestion is that,maybe you both need to make some compramise for each other.