What is the best way of punishing your lover to prove your point?

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  1. Barine Sambaris profile image73
    Barine Sambarisposted 8 years ago

    What is the best way of punishing your lover to prove your point?

  2. Thief12 profile image92
    Thief12posted 8 years ago

    The best way to prove a point is to state your argument in a well-thought and concise manner, not by punishing someone else. Communication is the key.

  3. DDE profile image45
    DDEposted 8 years ago

    I agree with Thief12 communication is key punishing a partner won't solve  the problem.  Points can't be proved by punishment but can make the situation worsen.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

    Communication is used by people "in love" to get a message across. Punishment is a (real) breakup or divorce after someone has committed a "deal breaker".
    It's both childish and immature to play a game of (I'm going to hurt you so you will know how I felt).
    In any relationship there will be times where you are NOT going to see eye to eye. That's a reality. As is often said: "Lets agree to disagree". and then you (move on). It's your (ego) that drives you to want to "win". The ego views relationships as (You & I) instead of (Us & We). Do you want to be happy? or Do you want to be right?
    “While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions” – Stephen R. Covey

  5. watergeek profile image95
    watergeekposted 8 years ago

    Walk your talk. Actions speak louder than words. People's "points" are things they believe in and should be acting on. If you are and it feels right for you, you won't feel a need to punish anyone.

    If, on the other hand, you require someone else to be like you or act the way you would, you may as well not be hanging with them. Everyone's different and, in the case of lovers, one would hope those differences prove interesting and compatible. If you're arguing about a thing . . . well, it's most likely problems with communication and expectations. Look at yourself to find out what part of it you contributed and deal with it. As others have implied, "punishing" your lover is actually a deal breaker.

  6. Thesource profile image71
    Thesourceposted 8 years ago

    Expressing what you feel is true should not be punishment at all.
    The truth is supposed to set both of you free. Pleasant or unpleasant, that is an act of love.

    However, it your point is based fallacy then it could punish or abuse your "lover".
    If this is the case you can do not love that person and you cannot call that person your "lover". Then he or she has legitimate concerns about trusting you or your point.

    Why punish your lover? Always express the truth in your point out of love.

  7. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 8 years ago

    Punishing? You are already in the wrong mindset. Your mate is not a child. Communication is key. Sit down with them and talk about it. If not, it will only get worse. Give and take are necessary for any relationship.

  8. Renee Abbott profile image81
    Renee Abbottposted 8 years ago

    It would not enter my mind to punish a lover. I have relationships with adults. I would ran fast if something had to punish me.

    Direct communication is what people do who are mature. Passive aggressive behaviors are not a healthy means to a good relationship.Punishing someone is not healthy either, unless you are into playing games.

    Also knowing, you are not entitled to change anyone, but yourself, helps a lot. If a person is not giving you want you want, then reassess the situation. People who tend to want to punish another, have this desire to control other people. You have no right to control another adult, especially a lover.

    Set boundaries for youself, if they dont honor them, out they go. Simple as that. No need to punish or prove your point.

  9. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 8 years ago

    People in a mature relationship talk things out, they don't punish each other.  Punishment and manipulation walk hand in hand so beware.

  10. CrescentSkies profile image74
    CrescentSkiesposted 8 years ago

    If you have to punish them to prove your point you're not going to stay lovers long. In fact they'll probably resent you for just being petty to try and prove a point in an argument.


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